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Help!!! How do I tell my mom I'm gay???

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Question - (31 July 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 29 August 2010)
A male United States age 22-25, *sc2246 writes:

Hey, I really want to tell my mom about what I'm going through with my sexuality (I think I'm gay) but I need some advice on how to go about doing that. So any help would help a lot. Are there any teens out there who feel the same way? I'd love to hear how you feel because I'm tired of not being able to talk to anyone about this. Thanks a lot

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A male reader, Asc2246 United States +, writes (29 August 2010):

Asc2246 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thanks to everyone who helped i have figured out that im not gay and that was jus a fase i was goin in a new realation ship with this girl.....and were very happy to be to gether and i kno now that i am one hunered percent thanks to u all

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010):

Hi I'm 15 and I went threw that stage what I did was stick to straight porn and your body gets over it it's just our hormones haven't settled yet with puberty and things like thAt hope it helps good luck

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A male reader, Asc2246 United States +, writes (1 August 2010):

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Yea my dad lives with me but im alot closer to my mom and i think it would be easyer to come out to her.....and maybe that would give my the confodense to come out to my dad.....thanks for all of ur asnwers......they help alot

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010):

To be honest, a mother's intuition is stronger than you think, she's probably already guessed so don't be afraid to tell her, the sooner you tell her the sooner you'll have someone to back you up and be on your side

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A male reader, rivi United States +, writes (1 August 2010):

Well you don't say what you think her attitude would be to it . You might have some idea from things she has said.

Eg have you watched GLEE together and does she like the Kurt character ?

Also - you don't mention your Dad - is he living with you or do you see him ?

TV shows like 6 feet Under and Glee reflect a generally greater societal tolerance of homosexuality albeit of course there is still a lot of ignorance and prejudice.

But it will eat at you if you don't discuss something so important with a parent or school counsellor - and sooner rather than later.

Plus there is online support / communities - and if you go to church at all many denominations ( esp Episcopal ) have L and G support structures / priests and so on.

Good luck and tell us how it went......

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (1 August 2010):

SirenaBlusera agony auntPerhaps you could have a chat with a school counselor if you're not ready to tell your mom. If you're not in danger (you're not gonna jump off a bridge or anything) then they should keep it confidential.

Also... does your school have a gay-straight alliance? You would have support from other kids going through similar things.

It's hard to "come out" to your parents... but I'm sure they really love you!! Even if you're gay... that's all right, unconditional love means loving you for YOU. :)

Hope this helps...

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