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writes:Hello, I've been dating a guy for the last 4 months, and within the last month or so he's been mentioning how he'd like to see me more often (we usually see each other once or twice a week).Last week after we went out I msged him when I got home and asked what our situation was, whether we were dating, or was I his girlfriend?His reply was I dunno? What do you think about it? Would you want to? And I replied back saying yes I would but I don't know how you feel about it.And he replied back saying that he wants to as well but its hard for him not being able to see me as often. He also said he understands I have a lot going on (college and minor chemo)And he mentioned that he wished I brought it up while we were at his house and that we would talk about it more the next time we saw each other.We made arrangements to see each other a few days later but he never mentioned it! I was waiting for him to bring it up but the talk never came up. When he dropped me off I jokingly said "well I'm glad we had that talk" he looked suprised and laughed and said he forgot. We saw each other again yesterday and neither of us brought it up!He once told my friend he wanted to be my boyfriend but it was up to me.My question is, is he avoiding the topic of us being an item? Should I not bring it up anymore? I'm thinking that if he wanted to really be exclusive he would bring it up?I feel so confused not knowing our situation and it makes me really sad. Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (5 December 2009):
 Hello princess, I think he might be one a little nervous about initiating the conversation you want, so it might be up to you, just ask him next time you are out and having fun, "so am I your girlfriend or not"
Although it does sound to me that you are!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): Dont be sad about things just be more open with him and do it face to face. Texting or phone calls about important stuff never work very well. Tell him youre a little confused because he seems to have gone vague about things. Ask if hes intersted in a full on exclusive relationship with you or not because it would be nice to know! Just blurt it out and wait for a reply. All the best
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (5 December 2009):
Oh wow. This really is not complicated. I know that it's different when you're in the situation, but this is really quite obvious.
He seems pretty nervous about making it "official" and I'm almost certain that he didn't bring it up when you two got together was because he was probably waiting for you to. Next time you see him, if he doesn't bring it up, then just take the initiative for heaven's sake! He seems just as nervous as you are.
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