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writes: Hi recently my boyfriend dumped me for another girl who is just perfect.. I've tried getting him back but he doesn't care I even once told him how I feel.. That was a mistake.. Enough said. Anyway, I'm so sick of chasing him and even though I love him so much I just don't want to be this miserable anymore but it's impossible for me to get over him.. I just want to move on. Please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all of you for taking the time out to help me.. and it has really. I think the best way for me to move on would be to find someone different as well, so I'm just forgetting about this other guy. Thanks you all really helped XxX
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reader, DeeDoc  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh Sweetheart, the last I checked, the only person who is PERFECT is able to walk on water. I have not seen anyone who is able to do this as of this date. The word CHASE does not fit you. You sound like you have a beautiful heart, therefore, you should not have to chase anyone around for affection. There is someone out there who would appreciate and respect your loving heart. And, yes, it is VERY possible for you to get over him. Time heals all wounds. I feel sure in the fact that you will find a man who will make you FEEL perfect, as you should. You are still young and have plenty of time. Don't rush love, it will find you. Good luck sweetie, I wish you well. =o)
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reader, lildeesbg +, writes (19 January 2007):
 First! dont think that telling him how you feel was a mistake, because even if it didnt bring you guys back together it still was something you needed to do in order to have no regrets when you move on. Please move on from this boy! you did all you can and you need to realize that. You also need to realize that NOBODY is perfect! not even the new girl ! You and her are just different and in the end hun..so were you and him!!!
~dee
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reader, cd206  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Choose a date. Any date within the next month. Chosen one?
Okay that is the day you stop mourning this relationship and move on. Give yourself as much time to cry and eat chocolate ice cream and suffer until then but after that date nothing more.
It's a sad but true fact of life that sometimes relationships fail and even though you love the other person so much, you have to let them go to give either of you the chance of being happy again.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): xxxsoulsistaxxx is right! You're feeding his ego the more you show how hurt and lost you feel without him. Say it once...and if he doesn't come back ...start getting involved with life without him. Start a new hobby..go to the gym..change your hair color..something that makes you feel good about the person you are! And, guess what...psst...come closer....SHE'S NOT PERFECT!. She has her flaws just like the rest of us. If he feels she's a better match for him...maybe learn something from that. I know it's painful, trust me. But, they're really are lots of other fish in the sea.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (18 January 2007):
 You have got to let him go and move on from this chapter in your life. I know it must be hard for you to be dumped buy this guy, then to see him with this other girl, who you say is perfect must be even harder.
Its water under the bridge, put it behind you, pick yourself up and move on. There are plenty more fish in the sea.
Good luck x
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reader, jacktheripper +, writes (18 January 2007):
Darlin', I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. Break-ups with a third party involved are always gonna be nasty. But hun, if you've told him how you feel, then the ball is in his court, it's up to him now. From what you have said I seriously doubt he'll come back to you - sorry, but it had to be said, no use giving you false hope - so now you need to work on getting over him. Try staying away from areas that he frequents in; more likely than not he'll be there with his new girlfriend and you'll feel even worse. Try doing something to distract yourself from the hurt you're feeling; going to clubs and/or socialising is a good way to get over an ex. Spend time with friends, family, and do things you enjoy. Without seeing him, the wounds will eventually begin to heal. I wish you all the best. -Mattie-
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (18 January 2007):
 This must be awful-especially as she seem so perfect to you. But you must move on with your life, you're worth more than this. No guy is worth wasting time being unhappy over, believe me. He may seem happy now but don't you worry, she will end up exactly the same as you: dumped for someone else, as guys like that never change. She's nothing more to him than a bit of arm candy and you're worth more than that.
Please show him you don't care, don't bother with him anymore and he'll soon see what he's been missing. Hanging around him just feeds his ego and lets him know he has you where he wants you: don't be that girl.
Good luck and keep your head up.
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