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36-40,
*laurax1985
writes:hi cupid,i have been with my boyfriend for nearly five years, and last year he told me he had been sleeping with people behind my back. After a period of time of not being together he told me he had been stupid and wanted me back. So i got back together with him. A couple of months ago my friend noticed that he was on a website to meet people. I confronted him about it and told me he would not go on it any more but i keep checking and he last logged in last weekend. Am i reading to much in to it? what shall i do?
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reader, luvme247  +, writes (19 February 2007):
 I think that if he cheated in the past he is bound to cheat again. If you bring up the dating website he will probably lie about it & say he never met anyone & make up a lame excuse, so you have to be strong & not fall for it. He is not good for you. No one needs to be with someone that they can't trust. If you want real proof & feel like you HAVE to know the truth about this dating website then start up your own fake profile on the same website & see how he responds to your flurtatious emails (as a different person of cource). Good Luck.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (18 February 2007):
 You deserve Better! I appretiate that you care for this guy very much, but he has lied to you, and cheated on you. After you took him back, it appears he`s up to his tricks again. You`re only young, you`ve got your whole life ahead of you; and although you may not now be able to see it, the future can be bright for you, in a new way. Sometimes it seems easier to stay in a bad relationship, rather than to make the break, which is hard; but then in time, we can look back and wonder why we stayed with it for so long. I think you deserve better; and i`d like you to take a good, long hard look in the mirror, and see what other people see - a lovely person with personality, and lots to offer in a relationship, with someone who will care & share with you, will give as well as recieve love. Please believe me, there are loads & loads of men out there who are True, Loyal and Faithful. I can`t tell you what to do, I can only advise; but the fact that you have asked this site for help indicates that you have had enough of this man`s behavour and need some assurance that you are not being unreasonable at all, and yes, even after all this time, it is perfectly understandable to say "It`s time to move on". I really hope you make the right decision for you, and I wish you Luck and Love, Heather.
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reader, artistical_bumblebee +, writes (18 February 2007):
 isn't that cyber cheating? hes wreacking your trust you took him back for another chance but you do not trust him for a good reason too i do not think that you are reading to much into it he has clearly hurt you , broken your foundation if trust with him. this relationship must have promise for you have been together for 5 years thats quite a long time thus he must be close to your heart , you must have strong feelings for him but does he return these feelings? he may be simply bored or in a comfort zone where he likes the situation to much to break it up but doesnt love you no more. you must ask yourself why he is goin on these dating websites does he truely want to be with you?does he love you?is he bored?should you dump him?do you deserve this?does he deserve you?
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