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writes:I have been in a relationship for the past 3 years, me and my bf/ fiance have a 2 year old together, we live together. He bought me a ring we just haven't really planned a wedding yet! Here's my problem I really love him he's great to me so I never thought he would cheat or be cheating I thought he was happy with me well I guess not! I was on my face book and we were looking at he's sister's page and pictures of jes nephews and boom 2 pictures came up and they were him hugging a woman well I asked him who it was and. he said it was just a friend of he's sisters. that hugged him good bye Well to make that story short I got upset and he started telling me that she came to see him and he told her to leave he was happy with me and our child but a week later most of what I thought he finally admitted he had sex with her in a hotel room by he's work while telling me he was working late but the aweful thing is I think he's not admitting to everything from what she told me was he said our child wasn't he's and I make him miserable he has been having a relationship for the last 3 months with her he slept with her 3 times she got pregnant and lost it that he wasn't having sex with me but we were unprotected because I wanted another child but I had no idea he was having unprotected sex with her from the frist time she showed up! Also she was at he's parents home! Which really mad me mad they never told me anything now I don't know whqt to do he's been kissing my butt telling me he will find a way to make up for what he did I can't look at him or him touch me at all now iam pregnant with he's baby and just want to leave him, but I don't know if this is normal and ill regret not trying to fix things seek help or what all I see is my child wanting both her parents but this can't be a healthy situation either! As far as I know there over but I don't know for sure he only seen her on he's breaks from work and after work telling me he was working over time so no I'm not sure what to do would like some feed back! He's making me feel like I'm just walking out but a one time thing is a mistake 3 months is selfish and intentionally hurtfulPlease help me!!!!
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reader, tlp +, writes (1 March 2011):
tlp is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell just so everyone knows we have a 2 year old daughter and I'm pregnant I have income but no family or friends to help emotionally or anything eles, he was the only person I've here! I never would have though he was cheating because he acted no different, but I have made the choice to leave him but stay close by so our daughter can have her father and I could use the help with her while I'm hqving the new baby, the only thing I can say is he is a good father I just can't be with him after what happenedin no way was it my fault and he has agreed to therapy but hasnt toke the steps to do it so I see that as he doesn't care or want to make. Things wrongHe pretty much wants me to forgive and forget but I can't without him getting help as I wouldn't want to go through this again he's a lot older than me he's in he's late 30's while I'm in my 20's so I don't understandI'm thin and still pretty this girl was an ex from years ago and she was really heavy and married from another state where she would fly in and see himI guess ill always wonder why he did this to he's family we really loved him I was always good to him I toke care of him he never does anything around the house but by no mends am I a door matThank you all I'm very happy with leaving him it hurts but feels like a breath of fresh air
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reader, melanie01  +, writes (1 March 2011):
 If you think you can forgive him then go to a marriage councellor but if not even an inkling then leave. Speaking from experiance growing up in a house where your parents dont love each other is hard on you emotionally. Your children are very perceptive of the emotions you and he have.
Go to your friends and family for support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): very simple. dump this cruel bugger and have the baby. There are alot of decent guys out there who would love to have you and your baby.
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reader, Gertie  +, writes (1 March 2011):
I'm sorry he is disrespecting you so badly but now is the time to start thinking of you and the interests of your child. Do you want a dishonest man as a husband and father? He is trying to blame you to deflect responsibility for his actions,I honestly don't think he will change,most of these types don't,and in the long run you will be better off without him. I know you love him,but don't let him destroy you and what's left of your self esteem. If you can solicit the help of a friend to get away from this man,then you will at least have some support to get through this. You CAN raise a child by yourself,please think of you and your child first!
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