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writes:This will probably be one of the most stupid questions you'll ever get - but here goes.I was in a relationship for two years with a guy, who I basically would have done anything for, I supported him, I gave him all the love he ever could have needed and we were totally inseparable for two years - everybody said it. What people didn't know was that behind closed doors he hurt me in a number of ways, not all of which I want to mention - but physical and emotional abuse. He cheated and lied, he hit and he kicked.. But I stayed, like an idiot, I know.. It's harder than you'd think to leave someone like that. Eventually, it came to Valentine's Day 2010.. he slept with me, told me he loved me and that I was his everything.. later that day, I found out via Facebook status that he was in a relationship with some other girl.. I called her and tried to warn her of what he was like, she didn't listen - which I guess I understand.But the problem is, it's been all this time since Valentines Day 2010.. I still cry sometimes at night over him, I still miss him.. I've tried giving myself time to think about it, I just end up loving him more.. I have tried dating other people, who I've thought I've loved, but it's all just been infatuation when I look back, I didn't love any of them. I don't understand, will I ever get over this broken heart for my first love? And will I ever be able to love again? :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2011): be grateful that you managed to get out of such a horrible, dangerous and abusive relationship safely, some women are not as lucky. I know its hard but you have to move on, you will find someone else worthy of your love and who will treat you with respect, please have the confidence to know that you deserve better than someone who hurts you and treats you like you are worthless.
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 Well first of all love is not suppose to hurt. If HE loved you, he would've never even laid a finger on you- or came out his mouth disrespectful to you in any way. He doesn't deserve you. And you deserve someone who's going to treat you more respect. But you're still young...and I'm sure you'll meet guys that are going to love you and cherish you- and the relationship a lot better.
But you have to work on bouncing back from the break-up. And in this case, instead of looking at all the pros/good things that you like about him- or that you've done for him, look at the cons/negatives- and allow that to fuel you to find someone that's more loving and faithful.
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