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writes:My boyfriend and I are both 20 year old virgins. He told me he is waiting for marrige, but I want to have sex now, bc I love him. Is there anything I can do to change his mind??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): I know it's hard but if you really love him you'll wait until he's ready to do it.
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (29 March 2007):
 Hello there
You shouldn't pressure him to do something he's not comfortable with, in the same way he shouldn't do it to you.
This is his decision and you should try and respect that. In time you never know, he may change his mind, and if you love each other then it will bw worth waiting for, and will be extra special!
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2007): You should respect his decision hun, you would want him to respect your decision if it was you wouldnt you? There are plenty of ways you can please eachother and show love for eachother without intercourse so if you really love him dont pressure him. He may very well change his mind, but it shouldnt be because u pressure him to. He may regret it after and you wouldnt want that. Good luck xx
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (29 March 2007):
 Hey, I think that if someone as decided on something, there is seldom anything you can do to change thier mind.
You say you love him, there are plenty other ways to show this than to rush into sex with him. Sex does not by any way equate to love and it will not mean you love each other more.
Be patient and wait,give him time, he may change is mind way before then, just give a little respect and dont push him, if hes not ready hun, he's not ready. The worst thing you can do is to put pressure on as he will feel he is not good enough. We are all ready in our time, hes hasnt come yet, so just love and nuture him, and be glad that you have found someone that loves and respects you as you do them.
Take care x x
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reader, StellaBaby83  +, writes (29 March 2007):
 Well if you really love this guy then you should respect his decision. It may not feel right to you but if its really important to him would you want him to regret it later? The best way to express love is to show that you will do anything (within reason) to make the other happy. That you cherish their happiness overall. I think you could make him really happy waiting till marriage and he will have so much respect for you for respecting his believe's and values.
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reader, thor +, writes (29 March 2007):
 be gentle with him, he might be a little scared or timid. dont push him into it. maybe he has errection problems. or he loves you and doesnt want to take advantage of you, being a gentleman. if you love him give him time and he will come around to it, dont preasure him.
take care
thor
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