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writes:ok i'm 13 and me and my bf who is 14 have been going out for 3 in a half months i love him with all my heart but he wants to have sex in La in 2 weeks i want to but im scared i dont want to get pregnant what do i do HELP!!!!!plez Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): dont do it 3 months u must be mad! he just wants to look cool to his friends trust me im a guy i know these things! i have the same problem with my girl friend and if you guys love each other and your scared he would wait until ur ready dont let him push u into anyhting. if u do have sex use a condom!! plz
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reader, broken baby +, writes (16 August 2007):
im 14 and ive been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months i love him he loves me and we have a future together but all weve done is makeout!! we didnt kiss till 5 months cause i wasnt ready
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reader, Mr Raindog +, writes (15 August 2007):
 I did lose my virginity at 13. I did it not because I was horny and not because I loved the girl (I didn't), but because I was curious. I left me confused and it wasn't fun like everyone said it was. I tried again when I was 14 with pretty much the same results. You know why? I wasn't ready for it and it wasn't until after I did it that I realized it. If you're scared then you're definitely not ready. Tell your boyfriend and stick to it. This last part may be the most difficult for you to understand, but people your age fall in and out of love (or infatuation) quickly and easily. I know that it may feel real to you but don't get suckered in by a horny teenage boy and all the new hormones you yourself are going through. You only lose your virginity once and it's better to lose it for a slightly better reason than to help him get his rocks off.On the other hand, if you decide to go through with it, make sure you protect yourself before you do anything else. I'm sure the last thing you want is a nice disease or little present kicking around your stomach for the better part of a year.As always, be careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): well i think ur a bit to yung and i dont think u should coz its rilly not safe anyway bye
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): If your scared then its not a good idea. i had sex when i was 15 1/2 me and my boyfriend both admit it was still much too soon. Everyone goes on so much about sex it isnt quite as amazing as it seems, most girls i know have been quite disapointed. Its best to wait trust me.
Also if your too young it puts strains on your relationship, your too young to cope with the emotional side that comes with it.
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reader, girl with a point of view  +, writes (14 August 2007):
hun if ur scared ur not ready if he cant except that then hes not worth loosing your vigingity too.. and think about it your 13 one day youl look back and think oh my god i lost my virginity when i was 13 your not mature enough to deal with sex just yet and it makes things completecated.. just stick to the innocent things.. your virginity is a special thing to loose dont loose it to an idiotxxx
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reader, shauna +, writes (13 August 2007):
i am 20 now, and i also did it the first time at 13. i was unsure about doing it too, but the guy i was with wanted to and i did it. I REGRET THAT EVERY DAY! right now you probably think that he's the one for you and you love him more than anyone else before, and you do, but try to remember that after him, you will experience an even better love and so on until you're completely grown and then you will have no doubts about having sex, you will be ready. so my advice is that if you're not sure, just wait. you have your life ahead of you to have sex. it's not that great when you're young anyway. hope this helps.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (13 August 2007):
 I can tell you that you are not ready to have sex yet. This is your mind and body letting you know that this is a bad decision and it's time to start listening to your instincts. This is a big choice for you to make and it should not be taken lightly, this should be something that is special to you, this memory will live with you forever. It must be right and, I can tell you now, it is not the right time for you.
But I'm sure lot's of people will come on here and tell you not to do it etc but it has been my experience that you will go ahead and do it anyway, if not this time, another time when it is equally as bad an idea. Just make sure, whenever you do do it, you're careful, always use a condom and don't do anything you don't want to do.
If he's the right guy, he'll understand this is not the right time for you. If he loves you enough to deserve to be your 'first' he won't pressure you or make you feel weird for not wanting this. He will accept it is not the right time and continue. I know it seems like it's all that boys want sometimes but he'll be as scared as you are if he's a virgin too, trust me.
You're both very young and I advise you to wait a bit longer (a lot longer if you want the truth!). You will regret this, you're still babies and need to be experiencing other parts of growing up before you really complicate things with sex and stuff! Live your life as a young woman, there's plenty of time to be worrying about all this stuff. If it doesn't feel right, just don't do it, life's too short and precious.
Good luck
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reader, mtweed417 +, writes (13 August 2007):
Im just gonna real honest, its ur desicion but i would make him wait. Theres other things u guys can be doing. I did it at a young age and trust me its much better to wait til at least 17-20 But if u do decide to, DO NOT DO IT WITH OUT A CONDOM
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reader, -Colour-Me-Sober- +, writes (13 August 2007):
 First off, you're 13! As much as in love you think you are 13 isn't the best age to lose your virginity. Really I would advise that you do not have sex.Being scared is your body telling you that you are not ready for sex.If you can, talk to your mother or someone close and they will tell you the same.Good Luck = ]
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