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writes:i have bin with my partner 4 7 years, we have 3 kids about a year ago he found out I had kissed someone else, I have never done this before and it was only a kiss but he thinks I slept with him, he now wants me 2 take a lie detector test 2 prove i haven't, he has admitted 2 cheating on me whilst carrying our children and has been sleeping around since he found out. He says he loves me but wants me 2 take this test what should i do Reply to this Question |
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (2 June 2007):
 I think it's just becoz you've abused the trust before and now he's finding it difficult to trust you again. I say take the test.
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reader, rhythmandblues2  + ♥, writes (2 June 2007):
 I don't like the sounds of this at all, you are in a relationship where children are involved, and you are not even married to the father...You kiss someone, and he wants you to take a lie detector test? while he is screwing around on you? This is abuse...he is accusing you of something you did not do, and then justifying his own behavior of cheating because of it by blaming you.
Get out of this relationship now, it is only going to escalate to further abuse. The man has not even stepped up and taken responsibility for his family by marrying you. He sounds to me like he is either looking for a way out, and is trying to control you.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (2 June 2007):
 if you have nothing to hide and you told him all that u have done then take it to prove to him that you are better then that, but honestly its pretty much a waste of time if he is going behind your back and cheating on you i would leave his ass....if its ok for him to cheat and your not making him take one then why should you have to? its your call if you really love this man and want to stay with him then take it, if you can careless about him then dont and leave him!
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reader, evanejp +, writes (2 June 2007):
If you know you have not, you don't have a thing to admit, discuss, or worry about. I personally think what he is doing is absolutely rediculus, and perhaps it's time you re-think your continueing the relationship.
I would write him a letter telling exactly in detail what happened and why, and tell him that you did not sleep around and that you are not happy about what he is doing and that your considering leaving him because of it. Any real man would be more than willing to hear what you have to say and understand, especially if they want to be with you.
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reader, StarGazer78  +, writes (2 June 2007):
 I see no harm taking the test but as I said in my other reply, this guy is unpredictable. Leave him.
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