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writes:I have been with my man for 6 months , he moved in a few weeks ago, to keep it short, he was doing a job for my boss, which they argued about, he walked out on me the same evening, promising to talk the next day, he didnt and since then i have had one text saying he will get in touch when he is ready, he will not anser my emails, calls or texts, should i take his stuff back and let it go or try an get him to talk? I would like to see what people think.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (8 July 2010):
 I would just show up on spec at his place but take a friend with you just in case. Give him his belongings and get yours, ask him for an explanation and if he doesn't talk turn and leave... sorted!
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reader, angelm +, writes (8 July 2010):
angelm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i sent the text asking him to decide how we were going to give back our things, no answer, i actually think he is deleting them without reading them, this is just not like him at all, so now ive decided not to send anything, two days now, though it is killing me, Dont see any conclusion on this one at all. Though somehow we have to return important stuff, his paperwork for his accountant and he has keys etc of mine, how do we get round that one.
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reader, angelm +, writes (6 July 2010):
angelm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i am not expecting a reply or for him to come back really, and i dont have a free day till Sunday, if i havent heard from him by then i will go over, take his things and get back mine. Yesterday his daughter sent a text saying she would talk to him because she thought he had missed me, doesnt seem that way if he wont even answer me.
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reader, angelm +, writes (6 July 2010):
angelm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i sent a text asking him to decide how we were going to give back the things that belong to each other, as yet no reply, i put it nicely and said i was sorry it has ended this way.
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reader, natmarie +, writes (6 July 2010):
 Good for you - I''m glad you sre sending him that text. He will see then that you mean business. Dont; be afraid of losing him..I don't think you will somehow. he wont; come and colect his things - but he needs to know that he cannot treat you like this. What happened is not your fault, and he is making you pay for it - its a bit nasty. Cal his bluff. he will soon come running back. Maybe you need to think about looking elsewhere if he contiues treating you like this...x
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 July 2010):
You're right it WAS nothing to do with you so he shouldn't take things out on you. He owes you an explanation if nothing else and if he can't at least do that then in my opinion he's not worth staying with. Would you want to continue to live with a man who just takes off when things don't go his way? There is no stability in a relationship like that.~Eve~
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reader, angelm +, writes (6 July 2010):
angelm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did text last night to say it had been a week and he obviously didnt feel as i did, he must have told his daughter not to answer now too. I am now going to send the message about collecting his things. I do know what went wrong and they are both hotheaded ppl, that wont be resolved but i was business and nothing to do with me , i was just the messenger. He is continuing with his other work, and i know where he is right now, somehow i dont have the guts to confront him, yet i should. Thanks for the advice.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (6 July 2010):
Whatever happened between him and your boss has obviously really upset him. It might be a good idea to have a word with your boss to see what happened. Meanwhile he's let you know that he'll get in touch when he's ready so I would give him a few days to sort his head out. If you haven't heard anything from him in a week then I would get in touch with him again (by phone call rather than text) and ask to meet with him to sort things out.
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reader, natmarie +, writes (6 July 2010):
I think he is being selfish, and maybe you should offer him an ultimatum? try texting him saying ' Since you are not polite enough to answer my messages, I assume the relationship is over? since that is the case please arrange to come and collect your stuff'
That will swing him into action very quickly.. you wil get a reponse asap, as he will see you mean business. I did it just a couple of days ago to my boyfreind. let me know how it goes. Natmariexx ;o)
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reader, gorgeousgussie  +, writes (6 July 2010):
Have you spokne to your Boss about this ? Maybe try to find out what was said.
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