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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have dated a man for the past five years. I caught him having an affair after the first year. I thought we worked through this and had an even stronger relationship. Then I found out he never stopped seeing the other woman. He says he loves me and wants a future with me. I don't know what to do. When we are together he treats me like a Queen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): You forgave him for something he never stopped doing. He is not treating you like a queen, he is manipulating you. Only you can decide whether having a cheating boyfriend is good enough for you... He has been with the other woman for almost as long as you have been with him. I believe he has shown his true colors, now you must decide whether you want this morally bankrupt individual having the keys to your heart.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (2 January 2011):
 ok so you caught him having an affair the first time around, you forgave him, which was good on your part as alot of woman would not have and just walked away. So he has betrayed your trust once again by never stopping seeing her. Personally i don't think that he is going to change, otherwise he would have abolished contact with this other woman when you found out in the beginning. He is having is cake and eating it, enjoying having two woman on the go. the question is in your heart of hearts can you trust him again if he said once again its over?. Personally i think you should be strong and walk away, and in time find someone who gives you the love and respect that you so rightly deserve.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): If you are repaired to lose him - make him committ to you, if not - you have to deal with the situation as it is. I think you are scared you'll lose him so won't make demands. If you think something of yourself then you'd lay down a line from now on, he committs to you or it is over.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 Well I dunno... do you think you deserve a monogamous relationship? I think everybody does, no matter what their circumstances...
Personally I wouldn't stay in a relationship with a prostitute just because she treated me like a king when I was with her...
But that's just me.
You deserve better... and you f***in' know it.
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