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writes:Hello,If you can give me some advice that would be great. I'm not sure if this plan will work for my situation but I have been putting it to use. Let me briefly summarize my story- it's rather complicated! So to begin with about 2 years ago I started dating/talking to "Bob" although we never labeled it a relationship both of were extremely into each other. There was a lot of pushing and pulling as you say I made some mistakes and he did as well. Up until now we've had common friends and saw each other often. Both us I guess you can say indirectly communicated through our fiends. It seemed like we were back and fourth playing games but we rarely were ever normal around each other. Finally this past summer I confronted him and talked to him told him how I felt to his face. He never said anything but we ended up kissing. I didn't hear from him the next day- I was being pushy though and I finally got a hold of him after several calls and made him give me an answer. He told me he didn't want a relationship with anyone and that he wasn't attracted to me to begin with. Everything didn't make any sense at all what his friends would tell me, the vibes I had gotten from him.Now as if my situation wasn't sad hopeless already,about two months ago he started dating my best friend! Before this he had told another friend of mine that he simply wasn't attracted to me and was more attracted to her (my other friend)! According to my ex best friend he was the one who initiated things. Both of them behind my back!? I have stopped talking to her. And I had stopped taking to him after this past summer. And as I've heard he's really into her so its not just some kind of rebound or him boasting to me bc he kept it on the low.He knows I've found out and am really upset.I just cant imagine how he so easily fell for her when he always told me he doesnt like anyone or want a relationship? I cant get over him and have tried everything. Is there anything I can do? Please help! Thanks
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 I'm not saying this is the case but sometimes people say they're not looking for a relationship to let you down gently. It's not you it's me.
Ok, you then went after him cos you wanted to be with him but perhaps he just didn't have the heart to tell you he's more attracted to one of your friends?
Whether this is the case or not I think you need to concentrate on yourself... Pamper yourself and treat yourself.
Take a look at this if you like: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
There are some ideas there that might help.
Good luck :)
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reader, guylovesme +, writes (23 January 2008):
 This happened to me. Honestly you have to get over both of them becuase they dont really care about you if they did this to you. My bestfriend told me to my face that they had sex behind my back for the first time. Thank goodness I had only kissed him. It hurts but I bet if you find a man who really cares for you you'll forget about him. I got into a online rlationship and we have been together in real now and I plan to move and live with him soon. :)
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