A
female
age
51-59,
*larysage5
writes:Hi there,I just found out that my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex on one night just last month. I came across his emails to her and realized that he sought her out first. Also, they have been writing emails to each other for quite some time. From the exchange of recent emails, apparently after he cheated, he felt guilty and wanted to break things off with her. He mentioned in his email to her that he is attracted to her but feels very guilty about cheating. Hence, he felt that the right thing to do is to stay committed to me.The scary thing that bothers me is that from the emails, I also found out that he brought his ex to our place. She saw our photos and questioned my boyfriend whether he was committed in a relationship with someone else. He lied that he's not in an exclusive relationship. I am just some girl that he's dating and he's not serious with me. Apparently, he also told his ex that he's willing to break it off with me to reconcile with her. Should I confront my boyfriend or pretend that I do not know about this? I love him and I believe he cares for me deeply too. However, I am bothered and feels that he is staying with me only because he feels guilty. Will he eventually leave me when he realizes that he still has feelings for his ex?Clarysage
View related questions:
cheated on me, his ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, SusieQ1970  +, writes (10 April 2007):
I think you should ask yourself a few questions before deciding whether to confront him about this or not. 1. Do you want to be with someone who has feelings for someone else?2. If he has made a mistake and wants to be with you, can you forgive him?Perhaps consider these questions before talking to him. I personally would think long and hard before you do as the outcome maybe not what you expect or want so be prepared for whatever may come. But I think at some stage you do need to talk to him just to put your own mind at rest.Good luck.
|
