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writes:dear cupid my boyfriend and i have been dating for a month. i could count on one hand how many times we have had sex and i feel it isnt normal because my past relationships i'd usually lose count after the first week. he tells me he is really insecure about his penis size because it isnt very big and he has had past relationships when he couldnt please the girl. back to our relationship, i LOVEEE having sex with him and to be honest he might just be the best ive ever had and my body shows it. not to sound inappropriate but my body with climax and squirt when we have sex and he is the first boy to make my body squirt. i didnt even know i could do that. i would like to have sex with him more often but i dont know what to do or say to convince him im not lying when i say hes the best at it. he thinks my moans are fake and im just a faker in bed and he wont get into it and start laughing and then it just pisses me off cause everything is just soaked when im "faking" . HOW DO I GET MY BOYFRIEND TO TAKE OUR SEX MORE SERIOUSLY? its sexually frustrating me and idk what to do
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reader, ClearEyes +, writes (16 March 2011):
Explain to him that squirting is one of two unfakeable anatomical signs of orgasm. It is 100% for real and cannot be faked, Let the science convince him, have him Google it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 Stop telling him he's the best you ever had. That compares him to someone else, and even if he's on top of that list it's still a comparison. It could cause him to feel uncomfortable. It leads his mind to the other guys you've had sex with. I'd do the same if a guy told me I have the nicest tits he's seen.. I'd just say thanks but be thinking about what the tits of his past gf's looked like and wonder about it. Wouldn't exactly put me in the mood for sex.
Second, you need to understand that this has nothing to do with you! And everything to do with him. It's not about you faking it, or he even thinking you fake it. It's not about you nt being able to convince him, or you not showing it enough how great he is etc. It's not about anything you do! It's all about him and his past experiences. Once you've gotten embarrassed about something in bed it takes years and years to recover from it. Your man hasn't recovered from what happened with these past relationships of his.
He told you he couldn't satisfy her? I'll advice you to talk to him about this. Sure it will be embarrassing, but if he can open up to you about what bothers him the most, you can work on a solution together. The thing is that if some girl told him that he's bad in bed, or repeatedly would put him down.. then no matter how many times you tell him he's great, his mind wont believe you. The only thing that will work to get him over this is that he works on it himself. But you can help! You just need to know how! And that is where communication comes into the picture.
However if you have not been dating for that long it would be best to wait a bit longer with having such a deep conversation. He needs to trust you completely to open up. And you need to be loyal to him and not a kind of person who will spill his secrets. If you can be that loyal person to him, then give him some time now. Show him that you enjoy the sex with him, and go on as you have up until now. But do not get frustrated if he doesn't believe you. And don't make it into a battle such as this: "you're good in bed", "no Im not", "yes you are", "no Im not". Get what I mean?
But, if he tells you you are a faker, or lie, put your foot down. Those are insults towards you. Let it be clear that you will not stand to be insulted. If he doesn't believe you that's one thing, and he can keep it to himself, but he can not accuse you of faking or lying.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 You can't fake squirting and not many women can do it... maybe you could let him know something to that effect?
Otherwise its just going to take lots of pumping up his ego over time for him to start believing you. Or perhaps try initiating sex more often... nothing says "I enjoy sex with you" like straddling a guy while he's mundanely watching TV...
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