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writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year now but it became a long distance relationship about 4 months ago (i had to move for school). we argued before but nothing serious, got mad at each other, but nothing that lasted more than a couple of hours. This time was different, even though i texted him to apologize about being super dramatic, he texted back saying it was ok, but i felt he was distant, i felt like he was just replying the texts just because, if you know what i mean. Anyway, i felt he was really different so one day i didn’t text him at all (we used to text a lot everyday and he used to call me everyday 2). At the end of that day he texted me "xxx" and turned off his phone for a week!!! After that he didn’t give any explanation about the phone being off, and we were back to texting, but not as we used before. During the last 3 weeks he hasn't called me and wouldn’t text me for a couple of days, than would text me again, and so on... I called him once, left messages, but nothing… I thought, well, the way he’s been acting is a quite clear message, i get that! So i kind of thought he had broken up with me but didn't bother to tell me.I texted him saying that it would be nicer of him to just say whatever is happening. He said he was sorry for the way he's been, that he feels depressed and doesn’t seem to think right. I told him just to talk to me, and we started texting again. During these weeks he would text me that he was going to call at night, and never did. I think he must have done that about 5 times! Yesterday I got a text from him saying he loves and miss me a lot. Yesterday I called him, he was sleeping but talked to me, he said he was so tired, but talked to me for an hour, as if everything was normal... Today I got the “ill call you tonight” again. And he, as its becoming usual now, hasn’t.If he doesn’t want to talk to me, why does he say he's gonna call? I never ever pressured him to call me.... i don’t text him saying "pls call me" or anything, im not texting him even to ask for an explanation of his actions, im just replying his texts now.It seems like he has gone off of me, so why can't he just stop texting me, you know? If he can’t just say the words "its over" why cant he be coherent with his actions? I just feel so apprehensive, I cant focus. I love him very much, but I get distance relationships are tough, so its fine to need a break, or even end this… I just wish he could say something or at least stop leading me to different directions!
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reader, Ayame-chan  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 You're welcome! Glad I could help.I'm sorry to hear he lost his job. He could find a better one in the future, so tell him to stay positive! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you for suggestion!I finally got to talk to him, and i just found out he has lost his job... and that explains me a lot now!
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reader, Ayame-chan +, writes (14 November 2009):
Guys sometimes have troubles with their feelings, maybe he can't bring himself to tell you out of fear that you might get angry or cry. Maybe he just found out he has a health issue, or that he has to move, or something of that sort. Next time you meet in person, ask him why he doesn't call you, because that way he can't shut his phone off and ignore you.Remember to keep moving forward, go with what feels best. My answer is just a suggestion, it may not be the correct thing for you to do.
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