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writes:Alright I have a question that needs to be answered immediately, please. There's this girl that i really like and I think I'm goin to ask her out tonight. just to give her the whole weekend to think about it. The only thing is that were really good friends and if I ask and she says no then we might not have the same friendship as we did. I need some help from you guys to see what I should do. Just some suggestions because I still want us to have a friendship. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): yea. i'm in the same situation. there's a connection but jus not sure you want to chance it
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reader, cowboy13 +, writes (15 November 2009):
cowboy13 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell she said no but I think it is only because shes been goin out with my best friend for the past year off and on and they just broke up and she told methat boys were pretty confusing to her right now so it was woth a shot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): Ok, i think you should go for it :)
You're obviously really thinking about your relationship with her and how much it means to you, but just think, if you don't ask her you might miss out on something amazing. And if she does turn you down, just check with her that you can still be friends like before and tell her you don't want things to change between you.
Hope it goes well :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): Ok, i think you should go for it :)
You're obviously really thinking about your relationship with her and how much it means to you, but just think, if you don't ask her you might miss out on something amazing. And if she does turn you down, just check with her that you can still be friends like before and tell her you don't want things to change between you.
Hope it goes well :)
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (13 November 2009):
 if your unsure, you should start flirting a bit and see how see reacts, if you still can't tell, go for it - she could say yes and it will be excellent! However, if she says no, then play it cool and there shouldn't be a lot of awkwardness but just act normal if there is.
good luck
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reader, tshxs  +, writes (13 November 2009):
if you think that she feels the same way then yeah definately, but otherwise, i'm not so sure because i went out with my male best friend and it didn't work but what it did do was ruin what was a very good strong friendship, so if you think she feels the same then go for it. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): I'd say take the plunge and ask her. If you're worried about it affecting the friendship that's just the risk you have to take. If she says no just shrug it off right away like it's no big deal. Smile and say no problem, and then drop it. Don't bring it up again.
The other thing is she might think you're just asking her out as friends. Women can be a bit oblivious about that. I've known guys who've asked women out and they actually showed up with their boyfriends because they genuinely believed the guy was just asking them out as friends. I don't know if that's just something peculiar about the women in my country or what but I often wonder how they can be so thoughtless.
I would have suggested you invite her to a romantic dinner at a nice restaurant but I just noticed your age. So maybe if you use the word "date" when you ask her she'll get the message. "Would you like to go out on a date with me?" Nice and simple. And if she says no just drop it and act like it never happened. You never know, she might start to look at you in a new light and feel increasingly romantically interested in you. So it's important not to make her feel uncomfortable around you.
Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 November 2009):
Best thing to do it gently as her if she would like to go out with you some time. Explain that you like her and would really like to get to know her more. Just relax and be yourself. And don't pressurize her. Listen to what she says, and be attentive. Hopefully, she'll say yes. Take the chance and see where it goes.
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