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writes:Hi can anyone help i have been happily married for nine years or so i thought when two weeks ago i dropped my husbands phone and he freeked out so when i thought about his reaction i thought he must be cheating on me oh and boy what a shock i had to discove rhe has been textin a lady for over a month ? she has sent him half naked pictures of herself to which he replied (keep them coming xxx) does thie mean he is cheating on me or will he be able to wriggle out of it if i confront him before i have got mor evidence ? it is really hard to look at his phone as it is always in his trouser pocket he even takes it to the toilet and to the shower with him he sleeps with it under his pillow?? i have even tried accidentally spilling a drink over his pants in the hope he might take it out of his pocket for a minute but he didnt? should i approach him yet or wait as i have sent of to the mobile phone company for a written statement for the last six months as i think the stupid get has forgotten that the phone he is using used to be mine so is sitll registred in my name?? please any advice or tips on how to catch him otu would really help mary x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): how do i know he is cheating he doent let me see his phone
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reader, maryv29 +, writes (12 June 2007):
maryv29 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionin reply to you letter i have yesterday asked my husband about the pictures on his phone and to my amazement he denied having them on there even when i showed them to him he tried to blame it on our 8 year old son downloading them off the internet? which is not true as the number that sent the message has now been erased from his phone???? thankyou for your reply x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): Just having pics of naked chicks on his phone is not proof positive that he's cheating. Twenty years ago, men would sneak off and buy Playboys and Penthouses, and that's because men get a thrill from seeing naked chicks. It's just the kind of animal that they are. But while it could be an element of cheating, it isn't proof. However, cheating isn't the only thing that can destroy a relationship. Failing to respect a partner's privacy and being deceitful (trying to trick him by spilling a drink on his pants, for example) can devastate a marriage. In the end, you can only communicate honestly with your husband, let him know that you have concerns, but also let him know that although the temptation is strong, you are not going to lower yourself to snooping or spying on him. Ask him to come clean with you. He either will or he won't, but look at it this way: if either of you is making choices that are harmful to your marriage, then it probably won't survive and/or won't be a very good relationship while it does. You can't make his choices for him; you can only make your own choices. I think you should choose to behave honestly and respectfully torwards your husband, whether he deserves it or not -- because after all, your behaviour is a reflection on you.
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reader, maryv29 +, writes (8 June 2007):
maryv29 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou to all the people who have replied to my question it really helps. It is very hard seeing things written in black and white but it has made me face up to the fact i have to confront him. I have hired a private detective to find out her name and address im not sure if i really want to koow it or not but if iam going to lose him then i want to know who the hell he has been cheating on me with? thanks again for all you rhelp and advice. thanks mary
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): Ok - so firstly he keeps his phone on him like glue. This is a classic sign. Your suspicions have now been confirmed. Whether you like it or not he is having a 'virtual' relationship with another woman and in his head he is cheating. Men will do this as an escape from reality or for attention / ego boost. Clearly he has little regard for your relationship. Confront him DEFINITELY. Watch his reaction. If he says he is sorry and he feels low and wants to sort things out then please go for it. At the moment he is cheating in his head. If he claims all sorts and then carries on with this, knowing you are upset, please consider ending it. If he starts on this track it is a prelude to an affair. You should be able to look at his phone without there being this on there. Do not let him make you feel bad for having a look - you had every reason to due to his actions. Be strong.
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reader, love-him +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Hey babe, uve seen these pictures tell him.. i think that is all the evidence u need. he may not have cheated but the fact he has another womans half naked pics on his phone would worry and disturb me! mail me if u want to talk, by the way my answer is to confront him chick u deserve better! x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): sorry hun but im my own life the same thing happened only 8 months ago and now im on my own he was texting a girl for bout 3 to 6 months now he is living with her it broke my marrige of 21 years and yes put it to him right now catch it at the begining dont make the same mistake i did holding on for more proof in the end its your heart that is beening broking if he loves you as he says he would not be letting this happen if he cant put ph out when you are around then hes most likely met her all ready so let him have it dont hold back like i did get it sorted and now sorry if what im saying hurts but iv been there and wish i could change it allbut im with a new man now and very happy thank god!i wish you all the best and hope its all just a passing thing for you and hope he cops on to what he has and stops this messing around please text back and let us no how it works out for you .you be in my payres god bless!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): You have already caught him out and ned to tell him. He must show you the content of his phone and if he yells at you and refuses I am afraid your suspicions must be right. Tha you have to think about what to do next.
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