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*cythe
writes:Hey aunts, this is a bit long and confusing but please stick with me here :)There is this guy I met a few weeks back... we had sarcastic and flirty conversations, and he saw me every day for 4 days (he was really persistant), one of which was spent lying on the beach at night, looking at the stars and talking about anything and everything until 2am.Then everything was quiet for a week, except for lunch on thursday... He said he was going to reserve a table at a resturant but we ended up having japanese takeaway in the city. He wouldn't let me pay.On two occasions we kissed (french kissing) when saying goodbye. So I assumed he was interested in me as more than a friend.Yesterday he kept bugging me to come over his house to join his mates for movies and drinks. I kept saying no but he eventually wore me down so I said I'de go. His two best friends were there, so was his ex and another girl, plus two guys from the car club that we met in. He ended up totally ignoring me, and hardly even noticed I was there. I ended up chatting to one of the guys from the car club (bless him).Anyway, I got in my car and left at about 12 without so much as a goodbye from the guy in question. I got a message this morning saying he was sorry for being boring last night and he isnt really here at the moment (??) and his mind is elsewhere.Well after last night I was pretty convinced that he is just a really social guy who only thinks of me as a friend. So I don't know how I should proceed. In the past I've made the mistake of assuming that a guy likes me, and it looks like its happened again.From his last message I supose there is something bothering him, but I don't know if I should bother with trying to help him. Sorry if that sounded crass, but do you think it's worth the emotional investment? I mean.. I don't think he likes me in the way I like him, so I'm just going to end up hurt again right?I'de be grateful if you guys could offer me some adivce on what to do in this situation...ThanksScythexox
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 He would come a wooing if he is interested in you.
If he does not call you up, it is either he is busy or he has lose interest.
Why did he insisted that you come over to his house and then did not pay much attentions to you ?
Was it to show off to his friends or to introduced you to them? Probably the later .
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reader, scythe +, writes (3 March 2008):
scythe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for your opinions Ask_oldersister and Laura. I never really thought of it like that, I supose I always try and give people the benefit of the doubt.
In reply to his message I asked him what was wrong and if he wanted to talk about it. He replied saying it was just family stuff and everything is fine.
How can I figure out if he is actually interested in me or not, or should I just not bother? I know I haven't know him for very long, but I keep remembering how the time on the beach made me feel - I've never been able to just talk to someone new like that.
All advice and opinions are very welcome!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (3 March 2008):
His problem is not your problem.
It is good that you see him for what he is at this early stage.
His treatment of you is inexcusable.
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