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writes:I have a question about foursomes... I am interested in doing one with my boyfriend of 4 years but we're not sure about the best way. Is it better to approach a couple that you know and are friends with or to go to a swingers club or put out an ad? We are worried that doing it with friends would turn the friendship sour, or that rumors about it would spread, etc. But with strangers, it might be a bit more risky (STDs, you don't know if they are psycho, etc.). Please help. Thankyou.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): This is a fashion which causes 80% of those who indulge to split within two years (Relate). The intimacy that two people have who really love each other takes comitment and work, it is not like a commodity. People fall in love, get jealous, hurt, this whole thing can be very painful and if you want to gamble your relationship on such shallow stuff even though it could wreck it, well it can't be very deep.
Have you really thought this through and your feelings not just desires? Imagine watching your boyrfiend, two girls on the bed, he chooses her first or does it with her twice, you only once. He is totally fascinated with giving her oral sex. You sit on the edge of the bed as the three of them pay you little attention. You find he likes doing it with the bloke.....heaven help us. The ramifications of his every move could haunt you and rip up your little heart. Think twice.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 March 2008):
 Hi,
Well I would suggest a swingers club if I were you. But you will probably find out that most of the people there are substantially older than you.
Your right, it is a relationship killer with friends and all it takes is one jealous partner to ruin everything.
There are plenty of swingers clubs, you can simply go and check them out without joining in and if you like it then go back next time and go for it.
But most couples are unable to see their partner's making love to someone else, so be 100% sure you won't mind your boyfriend putting his dick inside another girl.
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