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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 7 months now. I love him very much, and I believe him when he says that he loves me too. However, recently he has been talking to other girls, arranging dates to meet up without telling me. I found out and confronted him and the girl, but they said nothing was going on and we ended up arguing. Although I was rather hurt by this, we have both decided to put this behind us. However, one of his friends has told me that he still loves this other girl who does not like him back, and rejected him years ago. He claims to still love her, and even possibly more than me. He said that he represses feelings from people, including me, and that he has never stopped loving her. I don't know whether he actually does love me, or I'm just something to hide behind while he gets the never to ask out other girls, and I don't know whether I want to be with him. He says that he loves me and only me, and I'm confused. Reply to this Question
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reader, I'llTryToHelp  +, writes (14 June 2008):
 He certainly sounds confused and I'm afraid if it were me, I'd be very unhappy to feel as if I were in competition with some other girl he once knew.
Arranging to meet up with other girls certainly doesn't sound like true love to me. It sounds like LIES! He's also lying to you about his feelings. If he's still in love with this other girl then you need to move on.
I'm very sorry he's treating you this way and you deserve better. Good Luck!
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