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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 You are welcome...stay strong and don't let men treat you badly, you are worth so much more xxx
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 You're very welcome :)
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reader, Ariesgal +, writes (10 October 2011):
Ariesgal is verified as being by the original poster of the question A huge thank you to all I totaly see it now for what it really is. I've blocked his # and following the no contact rule. You have saved me tears and heartbreak thank you soooo much...
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (10 October 2011):
Ciar nailed it...
It is just a sex arrangement, somewhere for him to unload his 'load' to him you are just a receptacle. You my darling have fallen into the trap of thinking it means more...it doesn't.
Don't look for answers, explainations or reasons to think it will go anywhere...it won't.
Just quit and don't look back.
I advise blocking him and ignoring him because these kinds of people can be very pursuasive to get what they want...it's called deception.
Quit now and put it down to experience.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (10 October 2011):
You aren't friends with benefits. You're both just a booty call and he has made it clear, by word and by deed, that that is all he wants.
He isn't even interested in a platonic friendship so there really is no reason to keep him around. And since he isn't your boyfriend he isn't owed an official break up with explanation. Just stop answering his calls and texts. If and when he finally does manage to reach you, politely decline the invitation on the grounds that sex only just isn't fulfilling anymore. Tell him it was fun while it lasted and wish him all the best. Then turn off your phone and don't answer him ever again. Better still block him.
I strongly advise against having a discussion with him about this. The only reason he'll have to talk about it is to try to convince you to stick around (until he establishes another sex only arrangement elsewhere). And if you're too nice and diplomatic he'll misinterpret your message to mean you're in love with him and are desperate for a relationship. Best to avoid all that by avoiding him completely.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 You've discovered the major drawback to "FWB" arrangements.... Hope you and he can settle this matter....
Good luck...
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reader, Ariesgal +, writes (9 October 2011):
Ariesgal is verified as being by the original poster of the question once a week or once every 2 weeks.. its always the same small talk then straight into the bedroom
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (9 October 2011):
When you do see each other what do you do whilst he is there?
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reader, cmarieky +, writes (9 October 2011):
I would leave this guy alone. He wants sex only which is how u both developed what u have...only now you're not so fulfilled by this sex only deal. Yeah it happens.....only advice I can suggest is leave him. Then go get tested bc he may be sleeping with other individuals who may have been too generous with him. So for your sake and your kids move on. You want a healthy fulfilled life and this could get really ugly with the fwb situation. Best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2011): Sounds like you're his booty call.
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