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writes:I have been with my boyfrined for 2 years now. Since september last year he has been acting strange and we havent been sleeping together. We have has sex 4 times since then. He isnt cheating on me i know that for sure because i am always with him.He has recently turned 30 and put on 20 pounds since september. Also I know he has been watching porn and i think that this is the reason why wew have no sex life and i have told him this but he says maybe when he has lost some weight we will have sex again. I dont understand why he is acting like this... It is soo strange i love him and want him to be back to normal but dont know how to help him.
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (27 February 2009):
It sounds like he has gained weight and is having self confidence issues. He probably still feels like sex (hence the porn) but doesn't want to as he feels unattractive and embarassed about his body.
If the weight is that big a deal to him then he should do something constructive about it (simply walking is a great start, make a few minor adjustments to the types of foods he eats, and ease into a better lifestyle).
I am guessing there is more to it though. Why has he gained all that weight? Is there some stress or insecurity going on is life? Maybe that needs sorting out as well. You say he just turned 30 then gained weight which makes me think he is worried he is getting old or isn't happy about something in his life.
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reader, nichiren  +, writes (26 February 2009):
 Help him to reach his goal.
Suggest healthy diet alternatives, working out together, anything to get him to where he feels comfortable.
And maybe go together to purchase porn that might be interesting to both of you. (If you would care to try that.)
As a guy, when we are not secure with our looks then we need to get on track to change them.
Even though you find him desirable seems that he needs to get his own confidence back up.
And as men reaching goals is a priority.
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reader, cupids_friend +, writes (26 February 2009):
Okay I am 20 Year old male and I hope this help
What I think is happening is he is 30 he is getting older and bigger and when he watches porn its professionals they allways look good it it seems like to me he is self cautious about his weight just let him know that you love him and will do whatever has to to be done even if it comes down to helping him lose the weight but let him know even with the weight you still love him. I hope this helps please let me know
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (26 February 2009):
 I suggest taking the porn out of the picture, but that is just me. My BF and I aren't big fans of porn is all.
Sometimes when my guy feels down, I just straight up ravage him. Pin him down, undress him, and please him in every way I can think of. Try being spontaneous next time you want him sexually. If you start groping him and nibbling his ear while he's in the kitchen reading the paper, it might help him realize he doesn't have to look like those male models or pornstars in order to be sexy to you. Have fun!
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