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writes:my husband of 17 years at the time told me two years ago that he had been with a few prostitutes, he estimated about 20. We went to counseling and he went to sex addiction anonymous. This past fall I found a diary that noted two more sexual encounters in the spring. I was devastated to know he was still doing this. I am filing for divorce. He considers this not cheating. He feels it is just sex. I consider it cheating. Is it cheating or not????
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (7 January 2009):
 I know what your going through hun and anytime you want to talk privately just e-mail me my door is always open to other women who have endured this pain anytime hun.
Gina
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reader, bitch +, writes (7 January 2009):
bitch is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your caring responses. It hurts to go through a divorce but I know that I can find a guy that won't do this to me and so that is the reason I am letting my husband go. He doesn't understand why I would want a divorce. He thinks our marriage was good. I don't feel the same way especially now that I know what he was doing on and off for almost our entire marriage. He first said it was about 20 prostitutes and now he says it could be more like 60, he isn't sure how many. That was the end of it for me. I just can't trust him, even though he is remorseful and appologetic, I cannot accept this behavior. It just sucks. I hurt all the time. My heart aches. Thanks for your replies... I need them and the support badly.
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reader, Jillybean234 +, writes (7 January 2009):
 Cheating. He is disgusting pig! Leave, don't care about what he has to say about it. Clearly, there is something wrong with him. Just get the divorce and move on. It's harsh but I'm just trying to help. I'm 15 and I already know the ropes on men. My mom has gone through three divorces in the past 15 years. I hope you do okay with your divorce. Stay strong!
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reader, satindesire +, writes (7 January 2009):
 You've pretty much gotten all the good advice in the world from these lovely people, I just wanted to come in here and express how terribly sorry I am at your situation and that my email box is open for you should you ever need to talk.
I wish you all the best dear!
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (7 January 2009):
He's having sex with a woman who is not his wife.
That is the very definition of cheating.
It seems he doesn't even see these poor girls as women, just objects to use for sexual gratification.
One more reason to divorce him I think. You are doing the right thing.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, SoftlyCaress +, writes (7 January 2009):
 Yes it is Cheating Very Much So!!! You are married and when that is so you should be with just each other not someone you pay for not someone who gives it free not someone you take it from and if he is doing that then yes he Is Cheating ! Sit down with him and ask him what he would consider it if the shoe was on the other foot and see what he feels about it im sure since it was you he would say hey your cheating ......
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (7 January 2009):
Yes it is cheating more than cheating he is playing with your health too! mines did this to me and whilst we worked through our issues it does take a lot of strength to come to terms with this he has admitted to you about the ones he has been with and then you discover he was still doing this? you also mention he went to Sex Addiction Anonymous how did he get on with that?
I ask because SA do re-lapse and it is all part of the treatment to aid them to get better by attending these weekly meetings if he has not took his recovery seriously that is why he has re-lapsed!
It is the hardest thing in the world to come to terms with this and you have been married a long time i am sorry for your pain and heartache i have been there and would'nt wish this on my worst enemy! How has he reacted to the Divorce?
Gina
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