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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi guys, im having problems with my boyfriend and its to do with him calling me selfish you be the judge. I wore this casual dress to uni the other day and its just above my knees and he was really upset about it. He said im really selfish to have put it on when i knew that he felt uncomfortable about me wearing it. He has this thing about me wearing certain clothes and it partially relates to him being insecure. I get really upset because i wanna wear certain clothes its a confidence thing for woman and sometimes i just wanna feel sexy. You see iv'e always been a fat girl growing up and i recently have lost quite a lot of weight. I felt more confident to wear certain clothes i could only dream of wearing before. It just seems like hes tryna make me feel ugly to suit him so that he feels comfortable. What do i do? please
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): hello, maybe he is insecure about himself. Also guys dont like their girls showing their goodies especially if they are serious about the relationship. Maybe he needs to know where he stands and tell him that it makes you feel good to wear certain clothing. I think you should be able to wear what you wish but you should also take his opinions into consideration.
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reader, miss fit  +, writes (9 May 2007):
just say your the one wearing them, its your call! tell him you only live once and your finally getting the chance to show off your gr8 body.
stay strong, miss fit xxx
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reader, Midge +, writes (3 May 2007):
 So basically he is trying to rule what you wear? I'm sorry but thats not right!
He may feel uncomfortable with you wearing short, skimpy clothing, that I can totally understand because no bloke wants other guys to stare at their girlfriends. However, from what you say, the dress wasnt short, skimpy or revealing. So I cant understand why he would be upset?
To me it sounds as though he is scared that if someone looks at you, and perhaps even likes you, you are going to leave him. Hence he feels that the nun look is much better for you.
You are a young lady, and being in the same position as you, I know that when you loose the weight, you feel great and you want to show off the new body. But you know the limits too. You wouldnt wear something that you could see through or something so revealing everyone knows what colour you knickers are.
Tell him that you love him, but that you wont wear anything revealing, and that you feel comfortable wearing what you are wearing.
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