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writes:i've been married to my husband now for 6 years and we have 4 wonderful children together. i love him very much and he hasnt done anything to imply that he doesnt love me anymore. he has worked at the same place for 5 years but recently hes said that his "hours have changed". he said that since it went under new managment that his hours have become a lot longer. now he'll be gone for 2-4 hours longer than he was before but hasn't been bringing home any difference in money. he works for a large company that has many stores worldwide so one boss can't change the hours without changing the pay which has lead me to belive that hes cheating on me. sometimes now he even brings home less money than he used to but money isnt the issue. were very well off so thats not what im worrying about. his paychecks wouldve gotten larger if hes working up to 20 hours more a week right? please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): Doesn't he bring home a paystubb? Keep track of his hours and check the stubb! Have you tried calling him at work? Call there (make-up some simple reason for calling incase he is there) Wait till after the time he used to work till and call a half hour or an hour later. Then you will have your answer!
I hope you're wrong, but like one of the previous posters said, we women know when our husbands are lying! It's called womens intuition, and it is usually right on! Trust your gut feelings. But make that call anyway to confirm it!
Good Luck and keep us posted!
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (5 February 2009):
 We are in a financial crisis people may have to work more hours for the same money. I think if he has said he has to work more hours then maybe that is just the case. There is no other indication that he is cheating and it sounds like you have a loving relationship.If he was cheating I'm sure you would see other signs as us blokes are really crap at hiding things from our wives!Good luck
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reader, rcn +, writes (5 February 2009):
 I want you to look past just his employment. Has his behavior made subtle changes, such as a bit more seemingly disconnected, maybe spaces out a bit when you're trying to communicate like his mind is somewhere else. I want you to look at simple changes that may have taken place since his hours have changed.
You're right, more hours mean more pay. That's just the way it works. People don't work for free. You're also correct that working for a large company it would be hour changes implemented in all stores and not just one. Management of a store doesn't have authority to make changes without approval from area, or district managers, which get their orders from the corporate level offices.
Remember this, if you feel something isn't right, it usually isn't. If you confirm what is happening and need advice regarding what to do, we can address that area when it comes up. This is about you and your marriage. You deserve to have one with a faithful partner. Don't accept less than that.
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