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He says he wants space to 'clear his head', should I be concerned?

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Question - (27 April 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 April 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *RSMouse writes:

My boyfriend, who I have been with for 2 and a half years, has asked for 'space to clear his head' admist conflict between his mother and i (not caused by myself, but through her jealously of him having another important female in his life)

I find it hard to understand this, maybe because i don't buy into the whole space thing, it just distances us from each other. I havn't heard a word from him in 2 days, although normally before this space thing we would text for a good part of every day. I found out that he went out and got extremely drunk on Saturday night (2 nights ago) with his cousin / close friend, and his awful mother has written something online to imply he did much the same last night. Should I be concerned? I have no intention of getting in touch with him, since he didn't reply to 2 messages I sent him on Saturday and I don't want to crowd him. He left me for two weeks last summer and returned tail between legs, during a similar crisis.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010):

The quickest way to get a man back is let him go. Give him all the space he wants. Let him wonder what you are doing. If he comes back then you have him. If he does not you never had him to begin with and you are better off.

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A female reader, Si Si Australia +, writes (27 April 2010):

Si Si agony aunt Dear girl..If your boyfriend has asked for some space,why not give it to him? A good relationship is about give and take. If you love him,let him have the space he needs for a little while and let him know you are there for him too..

Whatever the conflict is between his mother and you, please try and handle it with a generousity of spirit,your boyfriend will love you all the more for trying to do this. Remember,that having some space is his way of handling things, even though it may not be yours.

Support him in the relationship when he needs it,and you will find he does the same for you when you need it. You will both forge a stronger and happier union if you do..

I wish you love nad happpiness

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