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He says he is willing to take a lie detector to prove he didnt cheat on me with a man!

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Question - (24 July 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 24 July 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, *YTY81 writes:

Hi everyone I am a transwoman and I ve been dating this guy for 1year 6 months in at first things were like a fairytale I couldnt get enough of him. Things started to change he didnt have a job,a car or a place anyways I was willing to work with him he situation changed and he started working in another state so we decided to put our relationship on hold. When he came back he had no money and the job he had had ended. I asked him what happened to his money he said that he spent it on hotel stay and a truck that he bought.

Anyways he moved in with me and is still living with me He made this new friend which is a guy and the hung out everyday sometimes twice a day smoking weed and drinking I started to be suspicious about there relationship when he would light up like a christmas tree when he would see him and didnt show me the same enthusiasm one day I head a recorder in the living room and heard his friend say you gonna suck me to and his reply was yeah then there silence and then his friend says you ready to suck my ------------- could make it out but you know what he said, anyways he is willing to take a lie detector test to prove to me nothing happened he says they were talking about weed the recording was a little muffled but thats what I heard He just started working so know he could help out with the rent but the relationship still has issues. What should I do? I do love him but its hard to love someone through this for one I thought he only like transexuals and women which I could understand that but I dont know someone please help me!

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A female reader, smeedle United Kingdom +, writes (24 July 2009):

smeedle agony auntHI,

Well you know what you heard and it was not about weed, so you need to be telling him that he shapes up and sorts his life out, job, money into the house and sees no more of this friend or he ships out and that is that.

Take a good hard look at what you are putting up with, yes you love him but you dont trust him and there is certainly nothing in him to respect, so whats left? a feeloader who is taking you for a mug and providing a nice and comfy home for him and his "mate".

Some people are attracted sexually to everyone so dont think that he is exclusive to women and transexuals because it seems he isnt.

Throw him out and look for someone who does light up like a christmas tree when they see YOU, havent you been through anough struggles in your life without adding this waste of space to them.

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