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*rika1gtz
writes:I was being nosy on my boyfriends phone and found one between an ex gf he had a very long time ago...she asked if he was still living with that chick (me) his response was "yes unfortunately I gotta get out of this place i ain't get much younger" i confronted him and he said he just talks shit with her....he really wants to be with me and isn't going anywhere. We own a home together have a business together so its a little hard to just "leave" what are your thoughts?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (5 November 2010):
 The others are right, but I'm surprised nobody mentioned your violation of trust. You shouldn't snoop. What he texted wasn't right, but you weren't right to be looking through his phone either.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (5 November 2010):
 He's telling you what you want to hear because you caught him in a moment of honesty that he didn't intend for you to see. He wouldn't have said that to his ex, of all people, if there wasn't some truth to it.
This isn't something that should just be brushed off, you need to have a serious discussion with him that goes beyond you confronting him and him smoothing it over with an excuse. You may share a home and a business, but is it really good for you to stay with someone that could only be in the relationship out of convenience? You do have options, don't let those ties be what keeps you in this relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): My thoughts are. Happy people dont tell their ex girlfriends its unfortunate that they are with you. He was telling her honestly how he feels. It might be a good idea, given that you have a home and business together, if you have a very serious chat with him. And dont be fobbed off with the 'chatting s##t' excuse.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 If he loves you he shouldnt be talking anything with her.
Ask him if he thinks anything of you would he stop contacting her.
While hes talking to her, shes not going to go away.
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