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30-35,
*racyamoc
writes:I have been seeing this guy Matt for over 6 weeks. He goes to college far away Monday to Friday so he only comes home on the weekends. He used to text me during the week and meet up on the weekends. He has introduced me to all his friends and his sister. I have socialised with him and his friends. He was affectionate to me and kept holding my hand in front of them and even bought me a rose in front of them. I havent seen him in nearly 2 weeks. He texted me once last week, during the week and nothing since. I texted him last weekend, asking him was he losing interest and was giving him an opportunity to tell me that he wanted to end this. He replied saying that he still wanted us to meet up the weekends cuz he would like that. That was Monday and today is Thursday and I havent heard anything from him since. Will I contact him again and ask him was he serious as I am losing patience??
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reader, tracyamoc +, writes (10 November 2010):
tracyamoc is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the advice guys!! Just last weekend, i bumped into him while i was out with friends and i ended up meeting him and he texted me yesterday.Basically his reason was that he finds it hard when he is in college and wants to wait til he is finished which is xmas. I'll keep ye up to date!! xx
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (5 November 2010):
 The more you chase him, the further he's going to run. Let him chase you, instead. Texting him several times and repeatedly questioning his interest is only going to turn him off. If he doesn't respond for more than a week, consider it over and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010): I wouldn't contact him. Let him contact you. Men like to do the chasing, and you don't want to come off as desperate. That will turn him off.
It sounds like something may have given him cold feet in your relationship--either that or he met someone else. Whatever, the reason he withdrew, at this point, the more you push, the more he'll move away from you.
What you want to do is keep him attracted so that he'll want to call you and be with you. If he does contact you, do not reveal your impatience with him, do not be accusing, or negative, and do not withdraw emotionally. Instead, you want to come off as interested in him yet confident in yourself, a woman with a high sense of self-esteem, and a sense of humor. You want to seem emotionally stable and happy so that he'll be intrigued and want to be with you. So if he calls, keep it light hearted, laugh and be a bit teasing. Let him know you're happy to hear from him.
If you sense him withdrawing, ask him if there's anything on his mind and tell him that you're there to listen if he needs an ear.
And don't forget to express your appreciation for him. Men like that.
Good luck. I hope things work out.
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