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writes:Im in a comited relationship with a guy since 4 months. we both really love each other..but i feel he doesn't love me much..because just for fun i asked him a question. da question that i asked 2 him was, what wil he do if i die? he said after my death though he'l keep loving me fore ever, but he won't liv alone in life ie he'l chose another life partner!! If he really luved me den he shuldn't hav said lik that..if he really luved me then he could hav said that he'l live alone..what to do? i m really confused? does this shows true love?cuz if i would hav 2 answer the same question i would hav said..yes i'l hapily live alone..plz help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2009): If you love him, why do you ask such horrible questions? If you love him, wouldn't you want him to find happiness after you are gone, rather than be miserably alone the rest of his life?
I think you are just young and immature, you will learn as you get older what selfless love truly is, hopefully.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): Is it not quite selfish to expect him to live alone for the rest of his life if you died? I mean, if you truly love him with all your heart then you would want him to be happy, yes? And lets turn the tables a wee second- what would you do if he died? Would you want to live the rest of your life alone with no more physical chemistry between you and a man? People have to move on otherwise they'd get nowhere. He does love you- he's just being a bit realistic.
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reader, PeanutButter  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 I'm of the same belief that if my husband died i'd move on. What am i going to do, grieve over him and live out the rest of my life in solitude and misery? No. Doesn't mean I don't love him, I actually love him very much, but I know that he'd not want me to be lonely if the worst should happen either.
Your guy is being realistic, if not a little insensitive perhaps, but it doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, so please don't worry :)
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 He loves you: a silly question means nothing when it comes to that.Put yourself there: maybe HE has just died. You'd mourn for him, but after a while, you'd move on too. Either that, or you'd live alone forever, and personally, I'd rather be the one that died in that case.Also, as yourself this: would you WANT him to live the rest of his life alone?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 November 2009):
Of course he loves you! If you died, he'd be destroyed. But that doesn't mean he has to live life alone. If he died, you would be hurt, but the chances are you would eventually find someone else. You asked the question, he answered it honestly. And since you're alive, it's not a problem. He loves you. That's all you need to know.
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