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writes:I really need someone to tell me what just happened in the matter of two weeks with one of my best friends. He and I have been close for quite some time we are both 31 and should be well beyond acting like children. The sexual tension was building and I swore I could tell that he was pretty much in love with me and that there was something about to happen. well it did. We ended up sleeping together one night and it was great. The next day he called me flipping out telling me that can never happen again and if it continues he will stop hanging out with me. Well exactly a week later it happened again. Needless to say so did the next day flip out this time it was brutal and mean things were said and he told me I took advantage of him. Now he will not look at me or talk to me and has the craziest attitude with me. What happened?????
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 February 2011):
 He's not scared, he's not interested in you..he even made that clear. There's nothing you can do about it. Let it go.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 So basically you love him, he doesn't like you in that way and there was alcohol involved...
That makes more sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok... to answer all of the questions, I put myself out there and took a chance and he denied me and said I don't like you like that and I have made myself perfectly clear when I am sober. I used the a "drunk mans words are a sober mans thoughts" line and let it go. He does not have anyone else and all of our mutual friends can tell there is something between us. I love him and I do not know what to do. I am so confused because I genuinely thought the feelings were mutual. Can it be that he is just scared of the whole thing??? I do not understand men. At all.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 February 2011):
What in the world?
It's not like he said no, you can't take advantage of someone who is willing. I'm sure he was willing each time. Really, if anything you both are using each other for sex..and due to his lack of self control he's trying to place the blame solely on you. What a douchebag.
If I were you I would find someone else to get your kicks with. It's generally not a good idea to have sexual encounters with your friend because it can cause awkward complications in the friendship.
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reader, littleconfused +, writes (24 February 2011):
WTF!?Okay? This guy now? Hello? He is wanting you without the responsibilities? I think he just wants you for sex. Are you interested in him, because if you are you should let him know. If you are not, get some guy better. He is not WORTH being your friend.Good luck!
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (24 February 2011):
Hmm... does he have a partner? Or perhaps a woman or an ex that he's chasing?
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