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writes: Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months. He spent the first few months trying to get back together with his ex who has moved overseas. He then told me he was falling in love with me and things were going great. We see each other almost everyday. His ex came back in october and they caught up and ever since then things have change and he isn't as loving and affectionate. His ex went back after 2 weeks to overseas. He sent me an email last week apologising for being distant. He also said he wanted a week to figure things out and that it wasn't to do with me but with him. I want to know if he's just leading to a breakup and what i should do. I love him but am going out of my mind. He still emails me and calls me. He always wants to know what I am doing and with who. Could it be he has met someone and is trying to see how he feels. Anya dvice would be great.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (12 January 2007):
 I am happy u guys sorted your issues, but right now i think u must be very careful and watch him closely im not implying snooping or spying i am referring to your confidence in this relationship, so that you can be sure its u he wants, at the end of the day u have nothing to loose.
all the best
jovial
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reader, heartxbrokenxgurl  +, writes (11 January 2007):
 dude something like that happened to me his ex from a different school stil had feelins for him n came to stay at my school cuz he went there she knos i was datin him but she kept on flirtin with him n i got mad so after skool i told my b.f "i dont like it that ur talkin to ur ex in sexy ways in front of me n she keeps flirtin with u so until u make sure its over between u guys n u r devoted to me then when u r u can call me " i think u shuld say somethin like that cuz the next day he called i said wut n he started sayin i love u not her it was just i needed to get over her n so me n him r friends not datin though cuz i have a new guy so if i were u id get the facts n see if there r any signs of him cheatin cuz wut ur sayin he does have some signs his cheatin so yeah
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reader, Angelgirl77 +, writes (11 January 2007):
Angelgirl77 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear I waited for the one, Shandy Pop and Jovial,
My sincerest gratitude for your time and advice.
I wanted to let you know we had a talk and he does love me and wants to be with me. He only needed a couple of days to spend time being with the boys. We see each other everyday and he wanted a lil time to himself.
I wish you all the very best and thanx again.
You guys are really sweet.
Angelgirl77
xo
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reader, I Waited For The One  +, writes (10 January 2007):
 hey Angelgirl77
good question and i hope i helped u out.
if not sorry
it's all good 4 u 2 be the way u r and i will look out for any future problems u may have if i can i will help u
take care
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reader, Angelgirl77 +, writes (8 January 2007):
Angelgirl77 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys, thanks for the advice. He only saw his ex for a couple of hours. He said it was hard cos he was planning on marrying her and needed closure. They are no longer in contact. When he calls me he's still really sweet. I know the relationship with his ex is over with, i think he still needs time to deal with it. Will keep you updated. Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): Why are you hanging around????? Get rid, he obviously wants and loves his ex or there wouldn't be all of this, would there. Tell him to get lost! I bet he didn't really finish with her the first time and strung you along, then he said he was falling in love with you. Tough. Get rid.
Take care
xx
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reader, Jovial +, writes (8 January 2007):
Hi there
Question: are u sure they did break it off? Because his behaviour is very dodgy if u ask me. U don’t disappear from your partner when ex is in town, something is not right.
Unless he is confused and torn between you and his ex, lets say in his twisted way he was genuine when he said he loved you, but by the look of things its like deep down he knew his heart longs for his ex but selfishly he decided to keep u and it was fun until the ex resurfaced and he realised he was kidding himself thinking he can forget her, so things became too much for him and it is not easy for him to face you without a guilty conscience that’s why he sent an apology unfortunately he is not sure if he can continue with you as a standby gf or break it off and be true to his “ex” whom he still have feelings for. So he wants to make a decision and he still obsess about you why is he asking what you do and who u spend time with? How is that his business under the circumstances? I thought when people ask for space means no contact until the decision is allotted? In the mean time I think try to set some future goals for yourself, think this very carefully because if this is the case in your relationship u don’t want a bf who is inlove with another woman. Good luck
jovial
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reader, I Waited For The One +, writes (8 January 2007):
wow sound's like your guy wanted is ex. tried and is now confused more than ever.
my advice 2 u is. step back look at you r-ship ask yourself is he worth it. i don't know about the breaking up part. because he could just of saw is ex and fell right back in love with her all over again.
if he did the question he's asking himself are " if i love my ex still after 15's (with you) do i love my present girlfriend? " mean's he's being smart.
do i think he's met someone? no because you said it yourself when is ex came back he kind of tossed u aside so there's no 1 else i don't think.
what r the call's like? does he still say i love u and stuff or is he trying to be nice? because he he still telling you he love's u just mean's is ex leaveing him again brought back all the old feeling's he did when she first went. and just need's time 2 get over them. if he's just trying to be nice. sound's 2 me like he's haveing 2nd thoughts about you & him.
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