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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend since August last year and we both live in London . In November he found out that he was being made redundant from his job. At first it was fine for him because he thought he might find a new job reasonably soon. 6 months later he hasn't had any calls for any interviews despite quite a bit of effort on his part. He still has another 4 months before the redundancy runs out. He mentioned to me yesterday that he is now starting to look for jobs in Dublin which is where he is from.I am now not sure that he will be around in London for that much longer although his preference would be to get a job in London. I am weary about continuing to invest in the relationship if he is going to move away which will inevitably mean the end of our relationship.I am also finding it difficult because our relationship has been going well so far and a few weeks ago we finally had sex for the first time which was also my first time so quite a big deal for me.Now the relationship seems so uncertain and I'm not quite sure what to do or how to proceed. Reply to this Question
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reader, malvern + ♥, writes (2 April 2015):
 At this moment in time he hasn't found a job and it may be quite a long time before he does. You can either end the relationship and forever wonder 'what might have been', or you can carry on seeing him. You may grow into a strong loving relationship and he may want you to move with him eventually. Alternatively you may find that you're not as well suited as you thought you were, so you may be glad he's moving away. It's a tricky one and I'm afraid there's only you who can make that decision. I actually think you've got nothing to lose by carrying on seeing each other. Even if he does move away you'll be able to work something out between you.
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