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*ichew08
writes:Ive been talking to this guy for 2 months now. He's a marine curretly stationed in North Carolina while im here in Cali. over the 2 months Our relationship had progressed well and sometimes i would even hint that i wanted to become official and his answer would always be "yes we'll see when i come home" and id answer with okay. But when i decided to come out and fully tell him how i felt he didnt respond how i thought he would. I thought we were on the same page and i thought he was planning on being in a relationship with me. But when i told him i wanted to become official he said that we couldnt, he was too far. and he didnt know if he could handle a long distance relationship. I tried to talk things out with him but after a few min. he stopped responding to my texts. I even tried calling but then he rejected my call. From there i decided i was going to live my life and just wait until he was ready to talk and 4 days after the incident he contacted me, but when i tried to bring up why he was acting so rude to me he stopped talking to me again! after that i basically gave up and thought maybe he had moved on to another girl. but when my friend decided to start im'ing him on facebook he was truthfull about everything and said that there was no other girl he was talking to and he knows that we have issues to work out and he still likes me. but since the distance is a problem he doesnt know if he wants a LRDSo now im waiting again for him to talk to me. He knows that we have issues to work out butI dont understand why its so difficualt for him to talk to me about this, but so easy to discuss this with my friend. Im not pressuring him to be in a relationship with me. I can understand that he has other priorities and that maybe its just a little too difficult for him to be in an LRD but its not fair for him to lead me on and on top of that not talk to me about it when i confront him.What does he want from me?
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reader, aichew08 +, writes (30 December 2010):
aichew08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually petinal ive known him for 4 years. i should have specified that but we know each other pretty well
the only reason why i would kinda push is because i never knew what he was thinking exactly. he would never be straight forward so i had to kinda force it out of him
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): Actually we've known each other for 4 years now so he knows me pretty well.
i never pushed him but i had to make sure we were on the same page because he never communicated with me clear enough to where i knew where he stood.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 He has a career in the marines, stationed far away from you. It can be quite hectic been a marine. He has been honest with you, he doesnt want a long distance relationship. You can't expect him to move you to where he is because he doesnt know you that well and that would be a massive commitment so I'm afraid you will have to let things be. If you keep asking him you will push him further away. He probably just wanted your friendship and in reality realized it won't be a good idea to commit because of distance.
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