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writes: sorry it's so long im 16 years old an i need some advise. u see, i have just recently come out of a relationship with L, he is 20 we were datin for 3 months an i fell in love with him it all started about a month ago when he said we need a break i coludnt understand why as we had spent the night before watchin the sun go down! so we spent a few days apart, those few days killed me coz his friends told me he was with his ex gemma, everytime i asked him he denied it i am soo upset i feel like killin myself, ive had a really hard childhood, ive bin raped 5 times this year, and when i met him i felt like my life was changing in a good way, i had one problem with him and that was that hes epileptic (or howeva u spell it)and i didn't no what to do if he had an episode but i tried to get past tht coz i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, hes seein gemma now and i have to face that but i love the boy so much i want him back hes cheated on gemma with me last week and he still tells me he loves me an that hes made the biggest mistake of his life leavin me but he wont have me back i am sooo confused??? how do i get him back help me please xxxxxxxxxxxxxx hes the best thing thts ever happeed to me and that's no lie xx HELP!!!
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reader, squirshy  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 hi. i was deeply saddened reading your question! im 23 and i myself am going through a really hard time with a bloke i was seein for a while who dumped me to get back with his ex and now he loves me and wants me back... but really if he cheated on her with you and cheated on you with her does this not make him bad boyfriend material hes a cheater and you seem like a lovely girl who can do much better than this guy who doesnt and mean does not in anyway deserve one little bit of your love... as for killing yourself that would achieve nothing you have your whole life ahead of you bad things may have happened to you but in time all your wounds will heal. time is the best healer you could possibly have and a big tub of ice-cream! really trust me one day you will find a guy who deserves every ounce of your love and he'll give u his dont waste anymore of your lovely young time on him get out and enjoy your life and wait for Mr RIGHT because thats wat im doin im leavin that waster to waste out of my memory so i can be happy were better off with loyal decent men!!
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 Sometimes is the sentence "open hand to the butterfly and he will come back to you" true in reality. Maybe it will work for you if you just wait few days or weeks. But i personally think, this guy is very confused and don't know what he wants. You said you had hard childhood and someone was raped you. Why don't you go to the psychologist? He/she will make your mind and feelings more clear. Maybe he was the first guy who didn't trade on and you fell in love with his personallity. You know, you're worth of any kind of love. You need somebody who also need you, and who is 100% that he loves you. But there's also chance that you two will be together, although it would be big chance he will leave you again. Look around, there's so many guys whose are more appropriate for you. I'm sure you will get another guy very soon. Just be little careful in your decisions. Cause 50% of guys are just one stinky bastards who doesn't deserves to be with anyone until they change minds about girls.
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 Listen hun, you're only, what 16? 17? You've only been dating 3 months, you are going to have to be really strong here and think very carefully about what you've just said.
Are you sure you're in love with him, or is it just infatuation?
Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference. He's swept you off your feet, probably treated you so much better than any previous boyfriend {If you've had any, that is} and you think you're in love with him.
Why don't you send him a nice little heartfelt email? But don't put any pressure him or beg him to take you back, that will only just put him off.
Simply ask him outright why he said he made the biggest mistake of his life breaking up with you, and ask him to explain to you why he wont have you back. What's the reason?
Now, please calm down and think carefully about what you're going to write to him. It's best to do it that way, rather than have him see you in front of him crying and pleading with him to take you back.
Keep in touch babe and take care.
BigSis
xXx
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