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writes: Dear Cupid, A few days ago,I wrote a completely fictional essay about my crush and I getting together.I decided to send it to my younger cousin via e-mail,and she replied saying that it was incredible and that I should send it to my crush.She said she thinks he will really like it,but I'm not so sure.Last time I liked him,I got on his nerves too much and he ended our friendship.He knows I have a crush on him again,and when my friend and I were talking to him on the phone,he told me to "quit tripping" because I totally freaked out when he told me that one of my other friends told him that I like him.So...should I send the essay to him?Sarah
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (13 July 2005):
 I entirely agree with what Bev has said below. It would be really unwise to push this guy. If he wants to be with you, he will be able to contact you to let you know that but don't hold on in hope. From what he has said and how he has behaved, it seems unlikely.
Why not try and find someone who likes being with you rather than someone who tells you off for 'getting on his nerves'. He doesn't sound very nice to me!
And if you are good at writing, why not develop this skill a bit further and write about other things to?
Forget about him, go out and have a bit of fun and ignore your cousin.
Good luck.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (13 July 2005):
No, I think it would be a bit full on to send him the essay. You don't want to look like a stalker.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (13 July 2005):
 No, don't send it to him. It's a terrible idea and will probably only annoy the crap out of him.
You already have a history of "getting on his nerves", he already knows you have a crush on him, he's already freaked because someone told him you like him and he's quite openly told you that you're fantasising to think he's interested.
Whew! That's quite a list. You can't seriously think that sending him an essay in which you let your fantasies about him out into the open is going to IMPROVE things!
Your cousin has poor judgement and she may only be winding you up, just to watch the guy you want squirm.
You've asked for opinions, so listen: No. Don't. Put yourself in your "crush's" shoes. If someone you weren't interested in dating kept harping on it, you'd get fed up, wouldn't you? So, if you don't want to make an enemy of this guy, leave him alone.
No essay. Bad idea.
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