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writes:my bf keeps saying he wants to live together and get married. he mentioned on Easter he wanted to tell my family but he didn't because he thought he'd embarrass me with an announcement. the problem is, he only seems to bring this up when he thinks i'm mad at him but doesn't seem to be actually making plans to do anything or telling anyone. Reply to this Question
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (10 April 2007):
 You are finally getting some basic training as a bullshit detector. As the line from the old movie goes, "talk don't mean shit."
If you really still want to marry this guy (knowing that he's going to be a bullshit artist all his life ... so think it over) lay it on the line. Tell him that he's got to make some real steps ... and tell him what they are ... in that direction. Tell him you want an announcement, you want a date, you want the two of you to start making some concrete plans about where the wedding is going to be, and you want him to stop procrastinating and actually DO something for a change. If he doesn't, then for heavens sake stop wasting your life over this guy and find somebody who will treat you like a woman that is really wanted, not just somebody he can string along.
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reader, Dr nandi  +, writes (10 April 2007):
He.s just sayin that crap to soften you up when ur pisd at him.if he really wanted to marry u etc he wudnt have worried about embarrassing u at easter.confront him.ask him if hes really intrested in getting married if hes not then he shud stop giving u false hope and feeding u lies
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