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writes:my bf comes over my house to visit each night for about 1 1/2 hours after work. he is constantly watching the clock and will not stay 1 minute past the usual time. He's always asking what time it is and he stands up watching t.v while I sit there. He says its bcause he came from work and I have dogs. I've asked him to stop and change (his place is on the way) or to leave clothes.I feel like he thinks by coming over he's doing me the favor. It feels distant that he stands there and watches the clock for the time. Should I take this personally? Its like he really doesn't want to be there but is just making the effort for my sake. Reply to this Question
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (10 April 2007):
 OK, if he doesn't like you what could he be after? I mean, he's already at your place for an hour and a half every day. Are the two of you alone during this time? He could be out doing a million other things, but he's spending the time with you. Why?
If you're just spending the time doing the same old thing every day, watching an hour and a half of the same old TV shows, no wonder he's getting bored. Try something different. Have you tried grabbing him, wrestling him to the floor, and taking his clothes off? THAT ought to take his mind off the clock! Also off the dogs and anything else that might be on it.
Put some variety into your routine and see if that doesn't help. The way you described it, you almost got ME watching the clock.
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reader, Dr nandi  +, writes (10 April 2007):
yes u shud definitly take offense.it doesnt seem like he really wants 2 b ur bf and its not as if he.ll suddenly change.i think that he wants out but doesnt wana hurt ur feelings.tell him that u feel offended and that you want a bf that wants 2 visit coz he loves u and not a bf that visits just 2 win u favour
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): Don't take this personally! He must just be tired after work! Maybe you should go to his house after he works long days and see him when he is in his own home.
I feel the same with my girlfriend when I go to hers after work she is lazying in her pjamas while im dressed and all you want to do after a long days work is relax in your own home.
If you don't work yourself go and see him at his house. If not ask him to stop over the night.
I wouldn't take this personally.
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