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anonymous
writes:my ex wants me to move 35 miles away to live with him or its over. i have never left my mum as she has M.S and all my family and friends live here. His family live 35 miles away but he works with them 10 hours 5 days a week. He can drive and i cant so i would be stuck there on my own. I have just been given a full time job which i have been waiting for for 4 years and the bus picks up from where i am now. The only way to do it is to pack my job in but i have only had it a month. Wat should i do Reply to this Question
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (21 October 2007):
 Dear Anon
Forgive me for saying this but if he is your ex what is the problem,i would have believed it was already over,i think you would be doing the wrong thing giving up your life, to move away with him, if he is trying to blackmails you over this, then what would he do over other issues that may arise, leave you in the garden in the rain, and wont let you in until he gets his own way, stay put,tell him were to go, and find some who think a lot more of you , you deserve that much out of a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Don't let that guy or anyone dictate your life so restrictively. He seems controlling and possibly even emotionally abusive. He's your ex, let it stay that way, if he cannot take your own life into consideration. You have your mom's health, and you have your own career and job situation. In this case, think about your immediate needs and stability first before thinking of getting into any sort of relationship, especially with one like this.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (21 October 2007):
 My main concern came from reading the title of your problem.... does someone who would finish with you because they can't get their own way really love you? I don't think he should make all the compromises in your relationship but neither do I think you should. What;s the rush? Right now moving in together isn't an option but that likely won't be the case forever. Sooner or later I'm sure you will move away from home and find your independence. I'm just not sure it's in your interests to find it with someone who would give you that sort of ultimatum.
CD
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