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*ahara05
writes:Hey. Don't know if you remember my last problem - "He is seeing me and his ex at the same time, now we are both pregnant." I am in a relationship with a well known Scottish Football player. As you know from my problem both me and his ex are pregnant. He has said that he loves me and that he wants to be with me and that he will still need to be in contact with his ex for the sake of the child which I understand.But now he has proposed to me and I don't know what to do. Do I say yes and hope that he stays faithful? Please Help!!!
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reader, uncle Frank  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Dear girl,He made you and the other pregnant.Don't you watch TV shows like footballers wives?Some of these guys do just what this one seems to be doing. Most likely is that he will go and make another pretty girl - they never go for Plane Janes - and you will be left on the lurch, like his ex.Are you going to risk it.I wouldn't suggest you did.You have made a bad mistake: get out of it.And stay out: use your experience.Don't go and have another man either.Don't heap sins on you head.If he is the first boy friend you had sex with you have not yet sinned, according to the Scriptures. But you must now stop.He will never stay with you if you gave yourself to him easily.It is a pity, but it is a fact of life.Sorry my dear.Best wishesuncle Frank
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reader, uncle Frank +, writes (17 July 2009):
Dear girl,He made you and the other pregnant.Don't you watch TV shows like footballers wives?Some of these guys do just what this one seems to be doing. Most likely is that he will go and make another pretty girl - they never go for Plane Janes - and you will be left on the lurch, like his ex.Are you going to risk it.I wouldn't suggest you did.You have made a bad mistake: get out of it.And stay out: use your experience.Don't go and have another man either.Don't heap sins on you head.If he is the first boy friend you had sex with you have not yet sinned, according to the Scriptures. But you must now stop.He will never stay with you if you gave yourself to him easily.It is a pity, but it is a fact of life.Sorry my dear.Best wishesuncle Frank
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): "Hope he stays faithful"? Sounds like you are setting yourself up for disaster again if you are going to jump into marriage. The main factor being that you don't trust him. How can you marry someone you don't trust? What's the point?
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (17 July 2009):
if you are still with him then you are still hopeful that he will be faithful otherwise there is no point in the relationship anyways.
If you want to be with him and you see a future there which is a faithful one the say yes! live a happy and full life with your new family.
i would lay down some ground rules with the ex just to be on the safe side and if you get the slightest hint of him being unfaithful then you know that it is time to call it a day.
personally i didn't read your first question and if i was in that position i would have left to start with but as you have stuck with it then you can obviously see some hope there.
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