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writes:Dear all, I'm dating a guy whom I'm sure is out of my league. I just turned 26. I was born in Hong Kong and educated in England. I'd say I'm curvy but short. I have fair skin and big eyes which are considered good-looking by Asian standard. But I must admit they don't make me look particularly attractive. Most guys would consider me average looking. Desirable guys I know would always ignore my presence. I met him in a seminar. He is a professional who has his own office at the heart of the city. He is in his early 40s but looks very young and nice. The only thing that makes him less desirable is that he is divorced. But it isn't my concern at all. I'm normally reserved, courteous and hardworking. But I'd appear to be very anxious when I'm required to handle difficult tasks. I'm notorious for being too emotional at work and had, in fact, been warned and criticized by the boss for a couple of times. To put it simple, I'm an underachiever at work. I don't think he knows about my flaws! He was very persuasive after he got my number. He asked me out for more than 3 times in a week. He held my hand when he was driving. He even talked about committing when he drove me home. No one had ever been so sweet before! It's too good to be true. And trust me, this kind of things don't usually happen to me. I'm confused because he has only met for me about 2 weeks. And he has more than 20 A-List models on his facebook friendlist. Is it possible that he only wants sex from me? We all know telling lies is the best way to get a woman into bed. How can I find out his motives?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2013): For real relationships, men don't look for a hot bod / drop-dead good looking woman... they simply want a real woman, whom they can connect to and confide in..... its a connection that goes irrespective of physical attributes / your flaws , etc... Have that faith in yourself, and you can go for a true relationship with anyone u desire. If some one is unable to see the person u r or value u for yr goodness, that person is anyways not worth investing your time in. Its difficult to find and connect with someone at that level, but not impossible. I may sound prude (and if u have the self-control), its good to be friends with a person first ( friendship is also a form of love)and reserve sex for someone who commits (marriage).
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (17 August 2013):
You might think he’s out of your league, either because you’re lacking in confidence, or because you’ve not had some-one show such an interest in you before. But he obviously doesn’t think he’s too good for you, and he likes you. Don’t spoil this for yourself by believing he must somehow be lying or misleading you. Presumably if he just wanted sex this early on you’d refuse him anyway. If a guy just wants sex he can find plenty of people who’ll give that to him. Keep an open mind, carry on getting to know him and see how it goes. He probably does know your flaws, and as you get to know each other you’ll find out about each other’s faults. But if you think enough of each other, you accept these. Everyone’s a mix of strengths and flaws, that’s a fact of life.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (15 August 2013):
 You need to believe in your own self worth. How you achieve this is your next step. You might find help on line; you could try counselling or perhaps even hypnotherapy.
As far as your new conquest is concerned take it slow. No-one commits within two weeks. Take from the relationship what you want - on your terms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2013): He wants fun. and please don't compare yourself with those A list models he has on his face book.
Not everyone from there are real.
That's why he is making the time for you because you are real.
He likes you, but don't take it seriously. I think you should read my article.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/have-the-courage-to-go-from-doormat-to.html
you will find some useful rules that will help you to be that dream girl.
I recommend for you to read it.
Good luck.
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