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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend of a couple of months broke up with me a week ago, he originally said he couldnt handle the long distance relationship (whihc was never an issue before) and eventually i dragged it out of him a few days ago that he thought our relationship was going nowhere cos we had nothing in common- i dont really agree with this we had loads in common but in the last few weeks it felt like something was playing on his mind he never talked to me bot anything-it was always left to me to keep the conversation going. we were totally smitten with each other, sex was amazing,and he was crazy bot me.the breakup came out of nowhere,he has a stressfull job but i dont hink work shud come before your personal life. There is noone else envolved and when i ask him to open up he just ignores me. He ignores my texts now. Should i move on and just forget bot him ?
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reader, sarcy24  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 Stop contacting him at once. Let him chase you. If he wants you he knows where to find you. If you send lots of texts and try to make him speak to you and open up it will probably just make him want to run a mile. Men like doing the chasing and they like women who are unavavailable and don't come across as desperate or needy. I know you care about him and only want to talk about things but men won't see it like that and they will view it as you pestering them. I am saying this because I pestered my ex husband all the time, ringing him, e-mailing etc etc and he eventually stopped taking my calls or responding to my texts at all. He just cut me off altogether. My advice would be to leave him alone totally for a period of time , min 4 weeks. If he likes you he will be in touch. If you hear nothing move on. Try very hard to remain dignified and keep your self respect. Sometimes if you leave someone alone things will also calm don and they forget or don't feel so strongly about what they were cross about and they will come back to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): Stop making all the efoort. Stop contacting him. He knows where and how to get hold of you if he is really interested. Get on with your life. Don't hang around waiting for this guy. It taeks two people to make a relationship work. You cannot do it on your own.Forget about this guy and find a person that will love you.
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