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He is back on friendly terms with his ex again, is he just using me?

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Question - (31 May 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 31 May 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

hi in have been seeing this man for about two months we were friends before but he was with someone someone who he had been with for four years he was really down saying he was only together as the she has a five year old son and he had brought him up as his own , well he split up with her and we started seeing each other, we got a lot of hassle from her saying she was going to find out who i was and if he didnt go back with her she would kill herself , well we have literally been seeing each other everyday and i said its too much as your probably on the rebound but him and his friends have said he hasnt been happy for months and he always fancied me , well i text last night and he didnt reply and he always does , i just went on facebook and i saw his back friends with her and that they were all friendly i feel angry that he was using me ive deleted his number what do you think i should do thanks xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010):

I think you may have been right and you were a rebound girlfriend. But theres only one way to find out and thats to speak to him. If he was with you every day and you had started a full relationship. Then its not right that hes become friends with his ex again and not even told you. And then to ignore you! Thats very wrong. Confront him and find out whats going on. He sounds weak and may have been using you to help him move on but his willpower caved in. I can only speculate. Ask him x

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A female reader, sarcy24 United Kingdom +, writes (31 May 2010):

sarcy24 agony auntthe male reader anonymus gave very good advice. Never let your inner peace/ happiness be dependent upon one person.

If he has gone back to her then don't take him back as it is likely that he will be deceitful and lie about his actions which will hurt you long term, but there is nothing to say that this has happened. Being a friend on face book doesn't mean that he has got back with her. Men and woman see 'friendly terms' in quite different ways. when I think of an ex I think of them as an Ex for a reason but my husband says that people should be friendly and remain amicable after a break up if it is possible. I don't think that you have been used here but I would be very careful to monitor the situation to make sure he doesn't start making excuses about where he is going, what he is up to etc.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010):

He may or may not be using you.He may not know himself.He's probably trying to sort out unresolved feelings.The secret to success for you is not to allow your peace happiness be dependent on being with him.

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