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writes:I have history with this guy! A couple of years ago I had a one night thing with this guy i worked with at the time. It went pear shaped because, he had a girlfriend and I got over him! A few years later there relationship is nearly over as his girlfriend doesnt want any sexual relationship with him whats so ever. For a while over these past few months I have started talking to him on msn etc! I didnt see him in that way anymore. I actually became friends with the girlfriend! I realised she was really nice and if it wasnt for me changing jobs we would still be best mates just know. He started telling me about his relationship and i was just being a freind. I told him that he either needs to accept his girlfriends wishes or he needs to find someone new. He has tried everythinng to change the situation between them but it hasnt done the trick. Know we speak on msn alot during the week and even though he is sexually frustrated we have started falling for each other again! Its hard to explain but he asks to see me and i know he feels the same. However I didn't want to believe i felt that way. I didnt want to feel anything for him while he still has his girlfriend. The only reason(s) he is still with her just know is because, they had a vacation planned to America and they have a mortgage together. Which he needs to sort out! He is in America just now and because, I cant see him I miss him alot! I have realised that i do want to see him as a friend to see how i feel about him in person rather than on msn or when he is millions of miles away!! I don't know why I am writing this but I dont know what else to do when theres nothing I can do when he is so far away. I am here in the UK!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 May 2008):
I can't split with my girlfriend because we have a holiday and a mortgage is the worsed excuse ever.
He could easily have split from her and let her take a friend on the holiday so she could get over him - but he wanted to go to America so didn't.
House prices are at an all time high so they could easily sell the house and pay off the mortgage and split any profit they make.
She may not want to move but that was a risk she took when she got a mortgage with someone she wasn't married to.
This guy is stalling so he can have an easy life and keep the house and keep going on holidays and have you on the side.
Tell him you are happy to get together but not until he is single and his girlfriend is over him. It won't be very nice for her to see him jump into bed with you - her so called friend.
Take a step back and away from him for a while and block him on MSN and tell him to give you a ring when he has sorted him life out.
Good Luck!! xx
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