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writes:My boyfriend is acting very different and i keep getting this feeling that he's cheating on me, how do i know for sure? And then what do i do if he is ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (23 October 2010):
Hi there. A clue is whether you ever see him chatting to other girls either by texting or talking to them.
How he acts doesn't necessarily mean he is automatically cheating.
Over here in Australia, our Higher School Certificate exams are happening - which are major exams to qualify going to university.
Is anything like this happening over there is in USA right now? If yes, well he might have a lot on his mind with study etc.
Unless you see him talking to another girl, you can't assume that he is seeing someone else.
The bottom line, is you will just have to come right out with it and ask him.
You don't have to ask - "Are you seeing someone else?" But you could mention - "You seem to have changed somehow, is anything wrong or worrying you?" And start from there.
At the very least, you are being open and honest with him, and it will get the ball rolling with discussion. It's a good start.
It's better to ask, than to leave it go and just make assumptions, when they may not be true at all. But at least you will have a pretty good idea. He will also see that you care enough to ask him in the first place, and that you have noticed this change and that you are concerned by it.
When you do have this talk, stay calm. Don't get angry or upset, sarcastic and don't criticize him. Stay positive and be supportive. That way, you will help him to feel good about himself and it will have a much better outcome. Be open and honest as you speak about your feelings, and make sure that you both still want the same things. Then go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): If he acts differently, it doesnt mean that he's cheating on you. He might have something on his mind that troubling him. I understand that you thought that he's cheating on you, but do not go on that accusion alone. Ask him if he's okay, and if he want to talk about what's happening. If he doesn't budge and ask him blurtly, then. At least you try, and if he is cheating on you. Ask him why, understand his reason. And of course dump him. He doesn't deserve a girl like you, if he cheats on you. That's unforgiveable at times.
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reader, hazy  +, writes (23 October 2010):
Just because your guy is acting different doesn't mean he is cheating on you. sometimes guys go through phases of being distant or less attentive. Sometimes it's because they are feeling so comfortable with you that they don't think they need to be as verbal or showing of how he cares about you, he thinks you will still "just know". The best thing you can do is straight up ask him what's been going on lately.. don't accuse him of anything, just ask if there is anything on his mind or anything that has changed with him. Most guys don't even know that they have become less attentive! Unless there is a really good reason to think so, he probably is not cheating on you.
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