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13-15,
anonymous
writes:Hi, ok when i first started my bf everything was amazing up untill he found out thats his brothers fiance was cheating on his brother for 3 yrs straight. Two of my boyfriends ex gf has cheated on him in the past so now hes become so distant and is really taking this hard!!! He's become so angry and rude to me. He wont talk about it and when i tell him not to bottle it up he just says thats him and thats what he does. He hardly ever calls or texts anymore.I harldy see him. He says that its not about me and if it was he would tell me just alot of shit is going on with his brother. What should i do? And when i tell him that i would never do that he just says "ya right" "we never thought my brothers fiance would do that to" help please!!
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reader, Annalisa  + ♥, writes (2 February 2008):
 Be there for him. Show him you care by making an effort to call and see him. When you talk about the cheating, say that you are not any of these other girls. He needs to know you have values and that you value your relationship. If he still takes it all out on you, tell him you love him, but need him to trust you! Tell him that placing you on a level with other women is offensive and leave him to it. Give him time to put an apology together!
Then let us know what's happening! Good luck!
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reader, baby duck  +, writes (2 February 2008):
 You can continue to be supportive as long as it does not hurt you. When it gets to the point that his pushing you away is more painful than the thought of not talking to him anymore, than walk away.
Sometimes, people have to battle demons alone. The only thing you can do is give them space.
There really is nothing you can do to expedite the process that he's going through. I am sorry.
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reader, Michelley-ox +, writes (2 February 2008):
 Okai well first off this isnt your fault! this has obviously brought bad memories back to him and hes probably feeling quite insecure at the moment u just have to be understanding this cant be easy for him or his brother he might just not want to spend time with you incase his brother is still emotional about all women beogn cheats which tends to be a phase some men go through after they have been treated badly their sensitive aswell. he might just need space let him know that you are there for him to talk to when he is ready but do push him to much
good luck x
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