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He has asked me for a BJ. I am afraid if I say no that he will think I don't like him anymore

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Question - (30 October 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 30 October 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

i have never given a bowjob and i am scared that i will do t wrong and my boyfriens has asked me to give him and i am scared if i say no he think i dnt like him any more what do u thnk i should do ?

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A female reader, sexi suga United Kingdom +, writes (30 October 2008):

do it only if you want to... dont do anything you are uncomfortable though tell him that youve never done it and tell him your worries and insecurites... but turn it into a joke....

thats what i did with mine i was like o ive never done it before teach me how do i do it lolwhat do i do what do u like ask questions and EXPLOREEE and EXPERIMENT LOL its the most fun

but dont forget do it only if you want to and if you feel that its right...

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A female reader, anonymous1776 United States +, writes (30 October 2008):

If he likes or loves you enough he will understand that you do not want to engage in such sexual activities.

Hope that helps.

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A male reader, saltwater United Kingdom +, writes (30 October 2008):

saltwater agony auntHey there

MaggieMay is totally right. Giving sexual acts to someone does not prove anything...least of all whether you "like him."

You should say that you are not ready...because you clearly don't sound ready. And if he accuses you of not liking him, then he isn't the right person for you.

Sex and sexual acts are an expression of love, not something you do just to show your boyfriend that you "like him."

Have respect for yourself.

Take care

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A female reader, aphexinfinite United Kingdom +, writes (30 October 2008):

aphexinfinite agony aunthere is a website or two that can give you some tips on what to do if you want to give him one good luck aphexy xx http://sexuality.about.com/od/tipstechniques/ht/give_a_handjob.htm

http://www.sexinfo101.com/pm_fellatio.shtml

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2008):

tell him you are not ready. you are young. if you start doing things just to make men happy now, you will have a lot of problems in relationships down the road.

Be assertive. Have respect for yourself. Be an equal partner if every relationship you have.

Most guys are attracted to women who stand up for themselves, not women who bow down and do whatever it takes to avoid being alone.

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