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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I desperately need some impartial relationship advice!!I suspected that my fella was cheating on me when I saw his credit card bills and the amounts of money that he had been spending on his pre pay mobile phone every month (This was definetly not for contacting me or anything work related).I was naughty and tried to look at his phone to see what was on there but he would always snatch it off me.I confronted him and he denied everything.Since then, his phone is permanently attached to him except when he is with me then it is hidden, switched off or set to silent. When I ask him about it he is very defensive and his manner becomes aggressive, it seems very over the top when your only asking about a phone.........He has a history of cheating and I cant help thinking that history is repeating itself now.Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): I think it is hard to say that the cell phone issues prove that he is cheating, he may just be offended that you are checking. What do you mean he has a history of cheating?
If he is a habitual cheater, he will not change, if he cheated once because he was unhappy in a relationship, that was more about the relationship than about cheating and it is likely he may have learned his lesson about that.
That said, I think if a guy really loves you, he will start letting you do things like hear his voice messages and answer his phone, because he thinks you are the one and he wants you to know it, he has nothing to hide from you and wants a future with you...
This cell phone issue to me speaks more about the long term relationship potential and what your guy thinks of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2007): These are classic signs of a cheater! My ex was always the same, never let me look at his phone. Phone always on silent or off when with me. When i went to grab his phone he got really aggressive and pushed me, but I managed to get hold of it and read his evidence. He used to spend a long time when we were out in the toilet, more than likely texting his girl. I remember when we were first dating he I phoned him when he was out and he actually went in to a toilet to speak to me, which looking back was him probably with another girl.Leopards don't change their spots and if he's cheated before why you wasting your time. If he had nothing to hide then his phone would be an open book!
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