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writes: hi,they is this guy that i like so much, well i think i do have a crush on we have talked and also we have gone further even having sex. he told me that he had a girlfriend i told him i dont mind. so we hit it off. these days i like get all jealous when his with her. i told him that i dont want my feelings to go overboard.what do i do?
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reader, smiler08  +, writes (21 May 2008):
not taking sides but your just as bad as him to be honest i done the same...most men are the same!!they will ave gfs and yet still have sex with other people..can you not see hes obv not a decent man if he can have sex with you and still be with his gf!!stay away from him he will only cause problems and if you stick around him your feelings will grow stronger for him and yet ull end up getting hurt not him because he will still have a gf but who will you have no-one...youll just have a broken heart
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (16 May 2008):
 Think, girl. What is wrong with your self-perspective and self respect towards yourself? You are having sex with a guy who is dating someone else. And you want him? And you are jealous of his gf? Oh my.
Hun, he's a loser... and you aren't any better or smarter for allowing this to happen. Get rid of this fellow and go find someone, you can date openly and honestly. And stop being the girl who is simply comes in "second" in his life. No fulfilling feeling of passion or love is ever possible, if a girl has no self-love. Leave this guy alone and fix yourself. Sheesh!
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (16 May 2008):
 You are the only one responsible for your feelings, not this guy, so I'm not sure why you would tell him that. Well, you are either going to have to accept your jealousy and keep your mouth shut about it so you can continue a sexual relationship with him without any kind of emotional investment towards you on his part or leave. This doesn't have much to do with him, he has his girlfriend and additional sex on the side with you. He likes this apparently. If you can't handle it, then you need to get out but please don't try to get him to choose or tell him it's too much for you- you're an adult and you agreed to this situation, right? Only you can change it if you're unhappy. I wouldn't expect much from him, okay?
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (16 May 2008):
 if he has a girlfriend than i suggest you try backing off. the last thing you want to do is get involved with someone who is already involved with another woman. he may be using you for sexual pleasure. maybe this girlfriend he has does not please him the same way that you do. he may have a stronger connection or friendship with his other girlfriend. the chances are he is biting off more than he can chew. The man does not know what it is he really wants in a relationship. Let him know that he could either have his girl friend or you. if he tells you he wants you than just be aware that he may be saying this to you so that he could still have you around without you knowing he is still with the other girl. im sure the right guy is out there for you somewhere and im sure he will give you all the attention you need. its not fair that you only have half of his commitment instead of all of it. you need to find someone new. Someone who is meant for you and is yours only.
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