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*ryin2helpu
writes:okay well i'm fourteen and i really like a guy named Andrew but he has a rep. he has gone out with alot of girls, including my bestfriend. but i still lik him lots. i dont know why. and he said he liked me, but then he changed his mind. right before he was gonna ask me out. i've had all of one boyfriend, named noah ,but i broke up with him becuz i was getting teased (shallow i know) but i want to know, how i can get Andrew to like me again. I know i cant MAKE him like me, i just want to know like, what would be the best way to try.... we text alot and stuff, and talk about our dreams and what not and he seems perfectthanks so muchXOXO
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reader, xalfiex  +, writes (14 August 2008):
 Go radio silence on him. He's a guy who loves the attention, and if you take it away he'll work harder to earn your attentions and affections. :) And if not, then he's obvs a jerk anyways.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 August 2008):
Awesome!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (10 August 2008):
tryin2helpu is verified as being by the original poster of the question yeah i was stupid to talk to him... yesterday he texted me and said hey whats up, i said uh hi, and he said you think im a fag dont you, i said now why would i think that. and he said cuz i took advantage of you and you know it. and i said yupp and he said im so so sry and what not i never said its ok or anything, and i havent talked to him since, AND I DONT PLAN ON IT!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (5 August 2008):
 The simple thing is for you to not answer his messages.
It seems to me that you like the attention but you're aggrevated that he isn't being forward as you like. Many told you, stop talking to him. You're playing with fire here.
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (5 August 2008):
tryin2helpu is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni cant do that though, idk why this was our convo
him-hey whats up
me- hey
him-hi how are you
me-im ok wbu
him-same ummm idk
me-what?
him-i'll tell you later
me-tell me what?
him you'll see later
so i am going crazy trying to find out what he was gona tell me!
last time he was gonna tell me something it was that he liked me... and noah some guy i know keeps asking me out and i cant be mean to him becuz i know what it feels like cause i am ignored by andrew
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (5 August 2008):
I don't know if your phone has this feature, but you can block phone numbers from calling you or texting you. See your manual if you still have it or try to do so yourself.
When he calls or texts you, just don't answer back. He has to learn he can't do this to you.
Good luck
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (5 August 2008):
tryin2helpu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell crap. i was doing SO good at staying away from him... then all of a sudden dang! he started texting me alot and stuff and before i would go to bed he would be like sweet dreams ill text u first thing in the morning. and stuff and then he texted me and asked me if i wantedt o meet him at my pool and stuff and dang! i dont know what to do cause i know hes bad news.... anyhelp???
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (1 August 2008):
tryin2helpu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah, thanks so much for the help
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (31 July 2008):
Oh my, that boy is such a loser. I'm so glad you made a decision that seems smart. I bet you'll find a boy that will be just great for you.
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (31 July 2008):
tryin2helpu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand his dad is the headmaster at my catholic priv. school... and i use to go to the same church as him
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (31 July 2008):
tryin2helpu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay well i made up my mind today. and we have stopped talking. i think it will be easiest. and im catholic so... none of that stuff will work. he always tells me how he cant get a girlfriend, then lies to me when he does get one and hides it from me. and he always ask to call me and stuff, but now we jsut stopped talking, he's already hurt me and one of my friends called and told him, so he texted me and said im sry but i cant promise it wont happen again
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (31 July 2008):
If you do actually get to go out with him, you will get your little heart broken.
Red light here: How can he just suddenly "change" his mind on not liking you? I think he's just trying to toy with your feelings. Guys like this are everywhere, specially at your age. It's what we call "players". They're handsome, charming, smooth talkers, 'nice', and incredibly understanding, or so what they try to make you think.
Your friend will probably care, even when she broke up with him and they're best friends. It will most likely happen because it often happen to people. Now, I would gladly tell you to go for him even when he was your best friend's ex, but I do believe that this guy will not appreciate you as he should. He already has a bad reputation and when he could have asked you out, he just backed out telling you he stopped liking you. He's clearly not shy (due that he's gone out with many girls), so why would he tell you this?
Now you may like him a lot and you want to be with im, but just be aware that he will likely just brake your heart after he used you for his own needs. But if you don't care and think that you can handle the heartbrake, then go ahead, flirt with him
There's only one way that you can get him and it's by whoring yourself. Just offer him a sexual favor and he will go flying up your skirt to ask you to go out with him, but after he has gotten bored of you, he will dump you and go for another girl. I assure you.
Will you handle the emotional stress that will come with you giving your body to someone else and he not appreciating it?
I hope you chose the best to do here, and good luck.
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (30 July 2008):
tryin2helpu is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni ment when he is really good friends with ur best friend
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (30 July 2008):
tryin2helpu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow. i just realized how pathetic i was. wow.
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (30 July 2008):
tryin2helpu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionofcourse her feeligns matter to me. its just kinda hard when u is realllllly good friendss with ur best friend. me and him are becominf good friends but it takes time
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (30 July 2008):
tryin2helpu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell she dumped him. i mean there is no possible way she would care. in fact they are best friends
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (30 July 2008):
Of course he seems perfect, he knows how to play girls and get what he wants from them.
You are going to get used by this guy but it seems he wants to use you at his convenience. You'll just have to wait till he has a time slot free and then you can get used by him and he'll dump you.
Te fact he's been out with your best friend would make him a no go area if I was you, but you have said you are shallow so I don't suppose her feelings really matter to you.
Good Luck!! xx
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